IS IT POSSIBLE TO FIND THE PERSON I AM LOOKING FOR?
Is it possible to find the person that I am looking for?
Hi, it’s Dave Oates, Head Researcher at FinderMonkey.
I wanted to talk today about a couple of questions, that come up time and time again. We get asked these questions from just about everybody that comes to us to use our service.
The first question we get asked is if it is possible to find the person that I’m looking for and is it the right thing to do? To answer this question I’ll start with is it possible.
The simple answer to this question is, for most people, yes.
We have found over 15,000 people since we started FinderMonkey over 10 years ago. We currently have a success rate of 92%. This is for searching all over the world including very obscure countries where records aren’t kept very well. However there are some people who do elude us but for the vast majority of people we work with, we’re able to find the person they were looking for. This allows us to get a successful result for them.
Is it the right thing to do?
In terms of is it the right thing to do, that is a more difficult question to answer. The answer to this question really depends on what your motivation is to find the person. If you’re a person looking for a lost relative for instance. Most people want to know what they’ve done with their lives. Including where they’ve been and you generally want to know more about them. Then you have a good motivation to conduct a search and find the person you are looking for.
Similarly, If it’s a parent perhaps, that you’ve never met and want to know more about. This could include what they look like as well as if you are like them in any way. Those kinds of details I think, again, are the correct motivation for wanting to find the person and you have a right to know those things.
Obviously, it doesn’t mean that the person you’re looking for will necessarily want to have contact with you. The best way to approach that is not just using a tracing company to find the person but also using a professional intermediary service to have that person contacted on your behalf. This is to make sure that they’re approached in the right way and they’re given the right support through the process.
When people are contacted they need time to make a decision as to whether they want to make contact back. It’s important how you approach this situation. This is because how you approach them will have a direct impact on what outcome you get back from the search. If you spend a lot of time and effort to find the person and mess up making contact, it will have all been for nothing. You’ve got to take care throughout the whole process. This is not just with the tracing part but then the way that you approach them. When you contact the person this needs to be really carefully considered. You need to show them a lot of respect and make sure that you treat them in the best way possible.