I know many people who visit our website just aren’t ready to move forward and find their person, they’re fact finding. Let’s be honest finding someone can be a massive decision. For you to put your trust in my team and I is something none of us would ever take for granted.
But rather than trying to sell our service I thought I’d give you some advice. I hope it helps you decide if finding your missing person is the right thing to do. Actually that’s where I’ll start….
Is it the right thing to do?
Many people have this question in their head. They want to find their missing loved one so much but they’re scared of disrupting their own life and the life of the person they want to find. Its right to think about the impact of finding your missing loved one on your own family, whether that’s a partner, parent or your children, there is so much to consider.
After speaking to people who eventually decided to go ahead I think it comes down to realising that if you’re thought about them for a number of years, that feeling isn’t going to go away. So at some point you have to take a deep breath and go for it.
But if you’re still having this continuous deliberation with yourself, constantly wondering if it’s the right thing to do I think I can help you.
Let’s look at the outcomes of finding your person. I’m going to be completely honest but I want you to know….
Most missing loved ones and family members are happy to be found. I’ll repeat that, they are happy to be found. They understand why they’ve been found and they are happy to have some level of contact.
So, what if we can’t find them?
This happens is roughly 8% of searches. We do everything but we ultimately don’t find them for you. Well we never say never so we provide a ‘not currently found’ report to you. You can go through this and see if it jogs a memory or helps you carry out some further enquires yourself. If you did uncover something then we would pick up where we left off. So that should offer you some comfort. We’re not like other companies who just say they can’t help, we want you to get the answers you’re looking for, even if it takes months or years, we’ll not turn our back on you if there is something more than we can realistically do.
What if they’ve past away?
This happens in around 15% of searches. We are often asked to locate people where we are almost certain that they have passed away, then we look for living relatives so don’t worry if you think 15% is high.
Again I want to be honest with you. I get up on a morning to help people just like you. I need to feel like I’ve made a positive difference so this is a tricky one for me too. I do have a few points that can really help you though.
Firstly, the longer you leave a search the more likely this is to happen, especially if you’re looking for an older person. Secondly if they’ve already passed away then putting it bluntly that’s not going to change anytime soon. Now what I can assure you is we would never give you that information unless we could 100% prove it, which means ordering a death certificate. It means we’d break the information to you in a very personal way, either I or a senior member of my team would call you. We’d explain how and when it happened and we’d make sure that you were OK. We form a bond with many of the people we work with so when this happens they want to call us again and that’s fine. As we say, we support you through the whole process and we’re always happy to hear from customers even if it’s just to clarify a fact or ask a question. When this happens we also look at the deceased person’s life, we can tell you much about them and in many cases can trace a living relative so you can find out even more. Although it will be a difficult thing to go through it’s my job and the job of the team here to ensure that you come through the experience with a sense of closure, questions answered and knowing that it was still the right thing to do.
What if they are alive?
This is where it gets very interesting and it does in over 80% of searches.
If they are alive there are usually two options.
One they want to see or speak to you. Or two they don’t.
I want you to go into the whole process with your eyes fully open. I want you to know that it is 100% the right thing to do as long as you are prepared for all possible outcomes.
One outcome is that we find them and they don’t want contact. This happens in approximately 1% of cases.
I must say that it is extremely rare that the person we trace doesn’t want any contact of any kind. This happens so very rarely and if you’ve used our intermediary service then we’d fight your corner.
Our intermediary service is really good, it allows us to deal with any initial reactions. Initial reactions are normally just years of pain coming out and people say and do the wrong thing, let them do that to us, let us work out if it’s the right time for them. Let us make that crucial first contact, we do it in a subtle delicate way that will forever be appreciated.
It allows you to move forward together at your own pace. Frist you might swap email addresses and build from there. Other people are keen to meet up and are doing so in a matter of days. It really depends on so many things.
It’s my job and the job of my amazing team to make sure we support you, if and when you are ready to go ahead with a search. It’s my job to make sure that at the end of the process regardless of the outcome you know it was the right thing to do.
A lot of people wonder how much the service is. Well, our amazing services start at just £249 and that includes some very special things.
We know what a big step this is. That’s one of the reasons why we’re the best in the country at what we do. It’s because of the care we take and that starts with a completely free no obligation chat on the phone.
CALL NOW on 0113 2825900 and find out what we do and how we do it. Or Click play button below to see what happened when Kevin finally decided to look for his mother.