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I was speaking to one of our oldest clients, he’s an independent financial advisor and first used us to track down old clients back in 2010. He has a good system so he doesn’t lose touch with that many but when he does, we’re his ‘go to’ team.

So what do we do for him?

Quite simply we find addresses and telephone numbers for old clients who have moved. He can then contact them to see if their needs are being met.

I was chatting to him about our services and asked why he used us, “it’s just easy” was the answer. I asked him to elaborate a little…

“I send you a batch of names and addresses of previous clients. You cleanse the data and I get my team to phone and write to the new names and address. It’s a great way to re-engage with an old customer

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It got me thinking. Is this a service that would appeal to other IFA’s?

Well as these things do we had an enquiry from a few weeks ago from a larger IFA based in the North of England. Long story short they decided to use us to do the same type of work, the first batch was 120 previous clients to find. They passed us over the information in an excel spreadsheet and added the fields into the spreadsheet that they wanted us to fill in for them…

  • Current Address
  • Current name
  • Any new telephone numbers
  • Any other information

It worked really well, we found 118 out of 120! Don’t worry they didn’t pay for the 2 we didn’t find as we provide this service on a no find no fee basis. If we can’t find your previous customers new address you don’t pay a penny.

So both myself and the two clients realised that this is a service that is cost effective to provide yet massively helpful for them. It’s so easy for a customer to move address, change their telephone number or name. Suddenly you have no way of contacting them. That’s where we come in, we can discreetly, legally (this is important!) and cost effectively trace the previous customer and find their current address, contact details and name.

We have access to all the latest systems to find people and we find people for councils (Burnley), Solicitors and even religious organisations.

Jame Trace Consultant

So if you’re reading this and feel like we might be able to help you. Call James now on 0113 2825900 and we’ll be happy to put a quote together for you. We can find 10 previous customers or 10,000, what’s important to us is that we help you.

We are easy to work with and can tailor the service to your exact needs. All searches are guaranteed to be correct and remember it’s no find no fee, so if we can’t help on a particular search you don’t pay us anything. So if you need to track down old clients please do get in touch and let’s see if we can help you.

 

I know many people who visit our website just aren’t ready to move forward and find their person, they’re fact finding. Let’s be honest finding someone can be a massive decision. For you to put your trust in my team and I is something none of us would ever take for granted.

But rather than trying to sell our service I thought I’d give you some advice. I hope it helps you decide if finding your missing person is the right thing to do. Actually that’s where I’ll start….

Is it the right thing to do?

Many people have this question in their head. They want to find their missing loved one so much but they’re scared of disrupting their own life and the life of the person they want to find. Its right to think about the impact of finding your missing loved one on your own family, whether that’s a partner, parent or your children, there is so much to consider.

After speaking to people who eventually decided to go ahead I think it comes down to realising that if you’re thought about them for a number of years, that feeling isn’t going to go away. So at some point you have to take a deep breath and go for it.

But if you’re still having this continuous deliberation with yourself, constantly wondering if it’s the right thing to do I think I can help you.

Let’s look at the outcomes of finding your person. I’m going to be completely honest but I want you to know….

Most missing loved ones and family members are happy to be found. I’ll repeat that, they are happy to be found. They understand why they’ve been found and they are happy to have some level of contact.

So, what if we can’t find them?

This happens is roughly 8% of searches. We do everything but we ultimately don’t find them for you. Well we never say never so we provide a ‘not currently found’ report to you. You can go through this and see if it jogs a memory or helps you carry out some further enquires yourself. If you did uncover something then we would pick up where we left off. So that should offer you some comfort. We’re not like other companies who just say they can’t help, we want you to get the answers you’re looking for, even if it takes months or years, we’ll not turn our back on you if there is something more than we can realistically do.

What if they’ve past away?

This happens in around 15% of searches. We are often asked to locate people where we are almost certain that they have passed away, then we look for living relatives so don’t worry if you think 15% is high.

Again I want to be honest with you. I get up on a morning to help people just like you. I need to feel like I’ve made a positive difference so this is a tricky one for me too. I do have a few points that can really help you though.

Firstly, the longer you leave a search the more likely this is to happen, especially if you’re looking for an older person. Secondly if they’ve already passed away then putting it bluntly that’s not going to change anytime soon. Now what I can assure you is we would never give you that information unless we could 100% prove it, which means ordering a death certificate. It means we’d break the information to you in a very personal way, either I or a senior member of my team would call you. We’d explain how and when it happened and we’d make sure that you were OK. We form a bond with many of the people we work with so when this happens they want to call us again and that’s fine. As we say, we support you through the whole process and we’re always happy to hear from customers even if it’s just to clarify a fact or ask a question. When this happens we also look at the deceased person’s life, we can tell you much about them and in many cases can trace a living relative so you can find out even more. Although it will be a difficult thing to go through it’s my job and the job of the team here to ensure that you come through the experience with a sense of closure, questions answered and knowing that it was still the right thing to do.

dave oates - people tracing expertWhat if they are alive?

This is where it gets very interesting and it does in over 80% of searches.

If they are alive there are usually two options.

One they want to see or speak to you. Or two they don’t.

I want you to go into the whole process with your eyes fully open. I want you to know that it is 100% the right thing to do as long as you are prepared for all possible outcomes.

One outcome is that we find them and they don’t want contact. This happens in approximately 1% of cases.

I must say that it is extremely rare that the person we trace doesn’t want any contact of any kind. This happens so very rarely and if you’ve used our intermediary service then we’d fight your corner.

Our intermediary service is really good, it allows us to deal with any initial reactions. Initial reactions are normally just years of pain coming out and people say and do the wrong thing, let them do that to us, let us work out if it’s the right time for them. Let us make that crucial first contact, we do it in a subtle delicate way that will forever be appreciated.

It allows you to move forward together at your own pace. Frist you might swap email addresses and build from there. Other people are keen to meet up and are doing so in a matter of days. It really depends on so many things.

It’s my job and the job of my amazing team to make sure we support you, if and when you are ready to go ahead with a search. It’s my job to make sure that at the end of the process regardless of the outcome you know it was the right thing to do.

Price

A lot of people wonder how much the service is. Well, our amazing services start at just £249 and that includes some very special things.

We know what a big step this is. That’s one of the reasons why we’re the best in the country at what we do. It’s because of the care we take and that starts with a completely free no obligation chat on the phone.

CALL NOW on 0113 2825900 and find out what we do and how we do it.  Or Click Here to see what happened when Kevin finallly decided to look for his mother.

I’ve been the head researcher here at FinderMonkey since 2011. In that time I must have reunited over 5,000 fathers with their adult children. I’ve also done this on the BBC1 TV series Family Finders.

If you’re looking to find a father you never knew then I can certainly help.

In this article I want to talk about how we find fathers for you. We can search for, find and contact your father for you AND support you both throughout the whole process. If you stay to the end I have a very special video for you to watch…

I also want to ask you a question. Are you ready to find him?

Many people who find our website are nervous about going ahead with a search. They’ve thought about their father for so long but then, often by chance they come across the FinderMonkey website and the first thing that happens is someone is telling you, YES we can find him. At that point a lot of people turn on their heels and run. They go from knowing they want to find their father to wondering if it’s the right thing to do, how he will react and how will your family react. All of a sudden it becomes real, it becomes an even bigger deal. So firstly I want to reassure you that you’re in good, experienced hands. My team and I are experts at discreetly and respectfully finding your father that you never knew. We understand that it might be a big deal to you and something that you want to be in control of. So it’s our mantra to say….

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“We know we have your hopes and dreams in our hands”

It’s my job and the job of the entire team to manage those dreams and get you the answers you are looking for.

How we work.

I’ll briefly take you through how we work and see if it’s something you are interested in. I stress again this is so you know what we can do, not so that you go ahead.

The first step is having a chat with one of my trace consultants to see if we think it’s something we can help you with. We don’t work for everyone. Each search is the most important search we’ll ever do and it’s so crucial that we have your full support as much as you have ours. We will do everything we can to help you.

Once you’ve had a chat with my team, they’ll assess how we can help, where you are now and what outcome you are trying to get to. If all that fits together we start the search approximately a week later depending on our work load.

When the search starts your researcher will contact you to see how you are feeling. They’ll make a real assessment based on the information you have about your father as to how we move the search forward.

The next step is to order any relevant documents that we might need to progress the search and those will then be assessed. My research team are constantly moving the search forward until we find your father.

But then what?

Well we find him! At least we do in 92% of cases. So very quickly at that point you’ll be in a position to contact your father.

Unlike other people tracing companies we understand that this is just the start of your journey not the end. So rather than giving you an address and leaving you too it. We prefer to support you and him through the next stage.

We can deal with that initial reaction, we can talk to him and reassure him of your expectations. We can work with both of you until you are both ready to move forward together.

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, sit back and have a think. If you still think in a day or two that we might be a good fit call us on 0113 2825900 and we’ll be happy to have a no obligation chat.

The total cost for a successful reunite with your father is just £897 including VAT.

If you have any questions about FinderMonkey or our service to find a father you never met, simply phone us and ask away.

David Oates
Head Researcher
FinderMonkey

Here is the video I told you about. Click here to watch it now

If you’re considering finding your ‘someone’, it’s more than likely that you’ll have so many questions in your head. Questions like, is this the right thing to do? How would my family feel? Have they ever tried to find me?

Sometimes you might frame these questions negatively, why should I look for them? They should be looking for me!

On other occasions you might take things a little deeper and ask, why did they go? Where are they now? Are they even alive?

It’s our job to get you these questions answered. We are amazing at finding people. What makes us different from any other service and what we really understand is…

Finding your ‘someone’ is only the start of your journey and not then end of it.

This is a potentially life changing event. One that you should have been thinking long and hard about, probably for years.

Your hopes and dreams are in our hands.

So we’re here for you when the time is right. We support you.

We’ve just completely revamped our intermediary service where we make that initial contact with your someone. This works so wonderfully well and is such a big part of what we do now. We deal with the initial reaction and then work with both you and your ‘someone’ until everyone is happy and ready to move forward. It really separates our service from any other.

You know that we don’t get everything right. For one, we probably send too many emails, pestering people to go ahead. That’s because we know we can make a difference. We know we can support you through this life changing event. If you choose us to find your ‘someone’ then it will change your life. It’s our job to make sure that at the end of this process you feel it’s changed for the better no matter what the outcome  and those questions that you had going round and round in your head? Well they’ll have gone forever.

Of course it might not be plain sailing

Yes your someone might not want contact with you – In truth this is a rare occurrence and if it does happen we’ll get you answers as to why. We work with them to find out their reasons. We work with you so that you feel ok about that and understand. We don’t just drop the bombshell and leave you to pick up the pieces.

Yes they might have passed away – but by leaving it any longer only increases the likelihood of that happening and you’ll still have those questions. If we find this has happened we’ll let you know when they passed and we’ll help you find and contact any other family if you wanted. At least you will have an answer and again, we’ll support you throughout.

Yes they might be perfect! -  They might have tried to look for you, and they might be instantly ready to meet you for a cup of tea and a slice of cake. This happens significantly more often than people not wanting contact.

Maybe it’s not the right time but when will it be? We can spend a lifetime waiting for the right time only to find that it’s gone and now there is no time.

The truth is until we start a search we just don’t know what’s around the corner. What we do know is that we’ll support you, we’ll look after you and we’ll make sure those questions going round and round in your head get answered.

dave oates head researcher

David Oates is Head Researcher at FinderMonkey. Author of People Tracing Guide and recognised expert on BBC1 TV Series Family Finders. He is an expert in his field and has had stories featured in The Daily Mail, The Daily Mirror, The Sun, The Telegraph, The Independent as well as been interviewed on Radio 2 and BBC Radio Leeds.

To instruct David and his team to find and contact your someone, whilst supporting both you and them throughout the whole process, call 0113 2825900 now and arrange your complimentary Discovery Call. Your Discovery Call is a chance for you to talk to David’s team about how we can help you and give you a clear price for the work involved.

There is no obligation to go ahead after the Discovery Call but at least you’ll know what we can do and how we can help.  

This week’s blog post is really special. It’s a long one but it’s so interesting. Very interesting. If you’re in a similar place to where Kay started her journey then I think you will enjoy reading it.

"My initial search was to find my Dad. I was told about my Dad when I was 11 years old and had extremely little information on him.

Through the years I looked via telephone directories and asking people in and around the area who knew my Mum and Dad but nothing ever came of it. I spent many years yo-yoing back and forth looking, searching, investigating but found nothing. I always asked a lot of questions about him, and two years ago when I was 29 years old my mum sprung it on me that my Dad loved me to bits. He left me due to reasons out of his control and that before he left he gave me a silver bangle that she presented to me. It was at that point that I realised I needed to find him. I longed to see the person that gave me rhythm to dance, a voice to sing and passion for music which are all things I love to do and apparently he was amazing at.

I came across FinderMonkey on google when I searched 'how to find your father'. I enquired but did not pursue it for another year. The following year too many nights went passed where I longed to meet him, wondering what he would be doing while I am looking at the stars and if he ever thought of me. I contacted FinderMonkey again and started my search in June 2016.

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I never had any doubts with using FinderMonkey. I had done a lot of homework on investigators through the years and nothing stood out to me like this company. Their reviews, their stories and their amazingly high rate of finding people honestly made it an absolute no-brainer for me.

The process with FinderMonkey was emotional. I had just a first name for my Dad, a five year window of when he could be born and the name of his little sister and that was everything! I felt the chances of this progressing to answers were extremely slim.

Yet after a matter of week I was told that there was a woman who could potentially be my grandma. I was just over the moon, but yet absolutely petrified, Emotions were everywhere. The information that was given to me regarding my grandma was spot-on.

My family were all so supportive which did make things easier. They knew this was the light at the end of my tunnel, the wish that I had been dreaming for, the gold at the end of that rainbow. I had been chasing for so many years. I plucked the courage to contact my grandma and wow!! Three whole hours on the phone. It was like we were connected immediately. 

The sad part of the story is that my Dad passed away 19 years ago. The situation was very bitter sweet for me. I was so distraught to never get to look in my Dad’s eyes and see myself but yet absolutely besotted with the new family I had gained from this. My brother Johnathan is an only child (or was an only child until I came along) and didn't know he had any siblings. He welcomed me with open arms. He was completely ecstatic to have a sister. We both were so shocked as to how alike we really are.

My grandma has always wanted great-grandchildren which she has never had and fortunately for her I have two beautiful children aged 2 and 5 and she is completely over the moon with this. She loves them so dearly. I cannot tell you how weird it is to have this unconditional love two people who are strangers to you. The connection is so surreal. When I speak to my grandma over the phone, we are on the phone for a good 2-3 hours and in that time have both had a bottle of wine and we just laugh, and talk and take trips down memory lane about both our pasts. She fills me in with some amazing stories of my Dad and how he was so loving and caring. Just the information of what he was like is good enough closure for me to take my next steps in life.

I have been to Blackpool twice in the weeks that I have known about my new family. We took the children to Coral Island and went on so many rides, stopped or coffee and cake with them, went out for tea afterwards and just had the most amazing day in the world. The whole thing is still a bit like a dream to me. My children adore my grandma, I think it is partly to do with the fact she gives them biscuits and sweets every time we see her, so they just think she is amazing :)

The one thing that really made me pursue my family was playing in my head the "what if" game. I play it a lot. "What if I get to 70 and realise I made the wrong decision not searching" "what if they are looking me but they have no information on me and can't go any further with their search".

I know that if I didn't do this I would never have forgiven myself for the rest of the years of my life.

My researcher, Sue, was stunning. She had just a dot of information to go on. A first name and a five year window of his birth. I had no grandparents name, no last known address, and no last place of employment. Sue definitely has a magic wand, I know for a fact she was definitely my fairy godmother!! Without this remarkable woman I would not have the closure I needed. I will be eternally grateful to her!

I don't give FinderMonkey 5 out of 5, I give them 25!!! They are an incredible company, passionate about their work, sympathetic, reassuring, and optimistic! They go to great lengths to get the results you need, I cannot thank you enough for everything!!"

Kayleigh Roberts 2016

We’d like to place on record our thanks to Kayleigh and her family for telling her story and helping people understand what we do.

If you think you might be ready to start your journey call us now on 0113 2825900 and we can have a friendly chat to at least tell you how we can help you. If it’s not the right time for you, that’s OK too.

 

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Pamela had searched for her birth mother for many years without success until she found FinderMonkey through our work with BBC's Family Finders. This is Pamela’s story. 

"I had been wanting to do this for a very long time. I needed to fill in a very large black hole in my heritage, both for my own children's sake and myself, but loyalty and a fear of being rejected once again, postponed my decision to go ahead. I then plucked up the courage to approach your tracing company, not really knowing what to expect. I felt at this time any information would be better than none - I was not disappointed.

I had done several searches before, a long time ago and got absolutely nowhere with my search, I needed help.

By sheer chance, I put the TV on early one morning. The television does not normally go on in our house until early afternoon, and there you were on Family Finders on BBC. So I didn't hesitate and leapt at the chance that you may be able to do something for me.

I had absolutely no doubts at this point I wanted FinderMonkey to help me, seeing as I had got nowhere with my initial attempts previously. I realised watching your programme that you were thoroughly professional, discreet and compassionate in the way you dealt with cases like mine.

The process was just brilliant, I telephoned FinderMonkey having researched you on the Internet. I spoke to Mel who was so kind and understanding I felt completely comfortable in giving her personal details regarding my situation, knowing it would be handled with complete confidentiality.

A few weeks later when Dave Oates phoned me to say you had traced her. I was overwhelmed with the emotion in the moment and it took me a little while to compose myself, and take in the enormity of you having found her. She was living in the USA.

This was difficult as I had also asked you to act as mediators for me, so I knew I had to wait. With my mother being in America I had to exercise patience!

The day I was given contact details, I telephoned my Mother. I had to wait for a while, which was really difficult for me, as the whole family being in America and the time difference really tested my patience.

Finally… that call was made, the emotion was overwhelming and scary.

My Mother told me on that first phone call, that she had often thought about me, prayed for me and loved me.  She told me that I had 4 brothers and 2 sisters, who have also now been in contact with me, basically I have been welcomed into my family.

My Mother made me feel that we had 'met for coffee' the day before, the years didn't matter and were inconsequential."

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Pamela has just returned from a visit to America to meet her birth family. This was her first day and it was wonderful….

"The message I would like to get through is never give up! It was a fantastic reunion, I had a brother drive all night from Washington, a brother who flew in from Texas, a sister who drove 200 miles, another Sister who drove 150 miles to attend that family meal.  One of my brothers lives close to Mom and he's the one in the picture, we bonded immediately and he and his family are now very close to me.

Many thanks to FinderMonkey for EVERYTHING!!!"

Thank you so much to Pamela and her family for sharing their story and photos.  We are so happy to see a family reunited after such a long time.

If FinderMonkey have helped you and you would like to share your story please get in contact.

If you're trying to find a family member and need some help. Call us now on 0113 2825900.

Rosie was embarking on a search to locate the father she had never met but always dreamed about

Rosie came to us earlier this year to find her father. This is Rosie’s story in her own words. Thank you to Rosie and her father for allowing us to use this story and photo.

I hope my story helps encourage other people to find lost loved ones missing from their lives! I will be eternally grateful for all the help and support I have received from FinderMonkey, Sue in particular. As well as taking care of the obvious practical tasks of conducting such a search, FinderMonkey are extremely aware of the moral support that people in my situation need.

How to find your birth father

Growing up with no knowledge of a parent feels a bit like reading a novel with the first chapter missing; you still enjoy reading the novel, but it never quite makes complete sense. I have been curious my entire life about who my father is and what he is like.  Since childhood, I have felt like a part of my heritage, roots and identity is somehow missing.

I have forever been curious over silly little things about myself such as, who have I inherited my curly hair from?  Who have I inherited my athletic physique from?  Why am I left-handed when my mother and all her family members are not?  Why is my personality so unlike that of my mother’s? These differences sometimes leaves me feeling incomplete or like I do not fit in, but most of all it leaves me curious about myself and who I really am.

(Above is Sue who supported Rosie throughout her search and found her birth father for her)

I have tried all my life to find a way of tracing my father, as an adult, I asked friends in various different professions, from police detectives to nurses, if they might be able to suggest how I locate a parent I know so little about.  Nobody had any answers for me and despite being surrounded by friends and colleagues every day, I felt like a huge part of my identity was undeveloped or incomplete. I lacked a sense of belonging in the world. I felt homesick even when I was in my own home. I didn't really know who I was. I had branches, yet I was rootless.

I had carried out some very rudimentary researching of my own prior to contacting FinderMonkey, such as browsing through people with the same name as my father on Facebook and asking other family members if they might have any information that could lead to my father.  I was unsure about how else I could go about tracing someone I had never even met.

I came across FinderMonkey in a very peculiar way.  In February 2016, I was having my pet cat re-homed.  The lady who bought my cat was very nice and although we had never met before, we instantly clicked and ended up having a long chat over coffee.  She told me that she was suffering from cancer and when she had first received her diagnosis in 2015, she felt the need to find out if anyone else in her family had suffered from similar health issues.  I listened very intently when she explained that she had managed to trace her biological parents through a special organization that deals with reuniting long lost family members. I explained to the lady how I had always wanted to find my father, but didn’t know how to go about it. The lady gave me the details of the organization she had used so I contacted FinderMonkey!

 

I decided to go ahead after the initial consultation because I got the impression FinderMonkey was a very reputable organisation that offers a very high standard of service.  I spoke to Mel who was extremely professional, polite and sensitive to the emotionally delicate, yet challenging journey I was embarking upon.  I was also aware of the extremely high success rate FinderMonkey has. I felt like I had nothing to lose and a lot to gain by trying and that if I was ever going to have any chance of locating my father, this was it.

It wasn’t long before my researcher called me to say they had located my father to a current residential address….. Three weeks to be precise!

Once the initial letter of contact was sent out to my father I went through a roller coaster of varying emotions.  At times I felt optimistic and at other times I felt totally disheartened.  I tried to put the search out of my mind and just get on with my normal day to day life.  I feel it is important for people in my situation to be able to manage their emotions.  It is easy to feel emotionally vulnerable and open to rejection whilst you are awaiting a response.  

I will never forget the moment I was told my father had responded to the letter FinderMonkey had sent out.  It was a cloudy Monday afternoon when Sue called me to tell me she had found my father and had just got off the phone to him.  I was in my kitchen making homemade butternut squash soup.  Sue sounded extremely cheerful on the phone when I answered.  She told me I should sit down before we had our chat.  I was trembling, overwhelmed, happy and tearful all at the same time.  I have never experienced anything like it in my life.  

Sue arranged for me to call my father later on that evening.  Even though it was only a few hours later, waiting to speak to my father directly felt like the longest wait of my life and in a way I guess it was.  I had waited 36 years for this conversation.  My very first telephone conversation was surprisingly easy.  We chatted for over an hour and there was an instant connection.  I quickly realised my father and I are very similar in temperament, even though I had never met him before. The similarity certainly brought to light the whole nature vs nurture debate!  

I now speak to my father on the phone almost every day and we meet up once every week or so and it feels as though I have known him all my life.  It doesn't feel like I am speaking to a virtual stranger (even though he kind of is). It's a bit like that feeling we all get when you meet up with an old friend you haven't seen in years and you're able to effortlessly just pick up where you left off without any awkward silences.

‘’Please do pass on my gratitude to Sue and all at FinderMonkey. You are all doing a very important job. I hope my story helps encourage other people to find lost loved ones missing from their lives!’’

To begin your own search call us now on 0113 2825900

How To Find Your Birth Father

How to find your birth mother...

Kevin, was searching for his mother that he had not seen for 54 years…Within 4 weeks we had managed to reunite Kevin and Angela …..Read this amazing story in his own words!

The reason I wanted to start a search for my mother came after my step mother passed away in 2014. I really didn't want to upset her however; I am sure that she would have given her blessing. I had always wanted to know who my birth mother was from when I was a teenager but my father gave me no information to go on. I wanted to find my birth mother because there was always something missing, a closeness that a mother has with her son. I really only wanted my mother, but I also wanted to know why she was not in my life and what she had been doing in the 54 years that we were apart.

Finding your birth mother

I had only dabbled on the ancestry web site but I had no real confidence in what I was doing as I did not want to go down the wrong road to find my mum.

I found FinderMonkey after originally looking to see if the Salvation Army could help me. When I read about yourselves I guessed you would work more quickly as you were a company that charges for the work instead of using a charity. I also read one of the testimonials which was similar to my search and this is what clinched it for me and I decided to use FinderMonkey.

Once I had made the enquiry with yourselves, your team put me at ease and were very kind and sympathetic to my cause. I never had any doubts at this stage, just waiting to see what you might find, I was eager but knew I needed to be patient too.

The process throughout was exactly as it had been described to me the first time I had spoken to FinderMonkey. I was at ease knowing I had made the right decision as to who to use. Timings were spot on and everything that you were doing I was notified at the same time. This helped immensely.

When I was told that my mum had been found I was speechless, I cried and felt an emotion that I had never felt before, but I was still thinking that my mum may not want anything to do with me…

FinderMonkey spoke to my mum in the first instance and the reaction they had from her couldn’t have been any better! My mum, Angela was also elated that she had been found and instantly wanted contact with me no questions asked.

People around me were so excited for me, they really were. Work colleagues shed a tear for me and were really happy. They said it was only something that they saw on the TV or read in books, they had not to actually known someone who had gone through this process.

The day I had arranged to call my mum for the first time I had no idea what to say, so I took a chance and said ‘hello mum’. Those simple words meant so much to her and she often tells me how nice it was to hear after all these years. I was so nervous, it was unbelievable that I was now speaking to my mum whom I always wanted a relationship with. I have now seen my mum four times and we are going to spend a week end together showing each other where we lived and where we grew up so we can add another piece to the jigsaw of our lives. Most of the village where mum lives now know about our little story, and the reaction is wonderful.

Thank you to all the team at FinderMonkey. I have never felt so happy and now complete that I have my mum. If your wondering how to find your birth mother I can recommend FinderMonkey!

From Kevin Risebrow and my mum Angela Kelly

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Thank you Kevin for sharing your amazing story and for trusting us to carry out this important search for you.

FinderMonkey specialise in finding birth parents. If you're reading this and can relate to Kevins story why not phone us now for a no obilgation chat with one of our trained trace consultants.

Don't wait another day call us now on 0113 4363685

Here at FinderMonkey we’ve been tracing debtors for some of the largest companies in the UK since 2007. Our reputation and high standards led to us being nationally recognised as one of the UK’s leading debtor tracing companies. Even though we’re probably better known now for our family and friends tracing that’s featured on BBC1’s Family Finders TV series, we’re still actively promoting our specialist debtor tracing service.

Tracing Debtors

FinderMonkey exist to help you trace your debtors, whether that’s just one or whether you have an ongoing need we can help. We’re not like other companies though, certainly we’re not like other debtor tracing companies, that’s because we’re in it for the long haul. We want to build long term relationships with our clients. We want you to be able to send cases to us with confidence, to be able to recommend us and trust us to do the best job we can for you.

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As you will know tracing debtors is a commoditised industry, all trace companies are working from the same data sources (although I would suggest we have the best data but I digress!) so is it just about price? Well it shouldn’t be, it should be about trusting us to have the right team with the right experience to use those systems correctly. We will find the best data and then report it back to you in a clear and precise way, if you doubt the information you’ve been supplied you can have a full and candid talk with the member of my team that’s provided you with that information. We want you to use our service and to be able to rely on us long term.

This is how we work…

Ideally we’ll speak to you on the phone about the case, this isn’t possible if you’re sending big batches but even then it’s worth a quick chat so we can find out exactly what you want us to do. Due to our licences we have access to lots of systems and can provide new addresses, mobile phone numbers, financial information, employment details and much more. So what do you want to know about your debtor? What are you going to do with the information we provide? Once we’ve had this chat and you’ve tailored our service to your needs we’ll get on with your search and find out everything we can about your debtor. Once we’ve done that we can talk you through the results we’ve found and make sure you’re getting exactly what you want. This approach works amazingly well with our friends and family searches and with various councils, solicitors and debt collection agencies that use us, so if you’re looking at tracing debtors and want a service that’s better than the rest and a company you can trust long term we’d love to hear from you. Call our office now and speak me, David Oates or James on 0113 2825900

Why we do what we do…

FinderMonkey exist to help you find the missing piece of your jigsaw; to provide answers to the questions that you’ve always had and to support you fully every step of the way...

That sentence took ages to come up with. It’s easy for a company to tell you what it does but it’s harder to tell you why it does it. We’re not like other companies, certainly we’re not like any other trace companies. We genuinely care about the people we work for and the people we locate on their behalf but as soon as you say "we’re the best" or even worse "you can trust us" it sounds hollow and insincere. The trouble is, how do tell people why you do what you do without sounding like your bragging? If you’re just stumbled upon the FinderMonkey website why should you trust us or use our service? You don’t know who we are or what we stand for, more importantly what we stand against so I thought I’d try and explain in a way that might help you understand if you’re on the right website or not.

My name is David Oates I’m the Head Researcher at FinderMonkey and the author of Long Lost Family Tracing. I am also featured on both BBC1’s TV series Family Finders and TLC’s Separated at Birth.

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This is me recording a new TV programme due to air in June

Let me ask you a question. Are you serious about finding the person that you’ve either lost touch with or never met? Do you NEED, really need to get in touch with them? Are you prepared to pay to use the best service that’s available for finding old friends and family members in the UK? If the answer to those questions is yes then FinderMonkey might be the right place for you.

We specialise in finding old friends and lost relatives and we are the best in the UK at finding them butin truth that’s the easy part. It’s contacting them in a way that enhances your chances of a future with them, its supporting you through the process because we understand that it’s a big deal for you. There is lots to consider, is it the right time for you and your existing family? Is it the right time for the person you are looking for? Its ok though, we’re here to support you through it all. We also support the person we find through it all too. We find this works wonderfully well and keeps everyone happy.

Our search costs are in the hundreds of pounds which for some people is too much but when you consider that case could be worked by as many as 5 members of the FinderMonkey team I think you’ll soon see its value for money. Lets look at those people now and how they might be involved in your case.

Firstly you’ll have a trace consultation with Mel…

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Why do you work at FinderMonkey?

“Because I Love everything about FinderMonkey, the work we do, the team I work with, the emotions we experience, how we help people and to make a difference”

Mel is our senior trace consultant. She is responsible for speaking to you before you decide to go ahead, she’s an advisor and will walk you through the service we offer and see if it’s right for you. She’s also review the information you have about the person you are looking for. Its fair to say Mel likes talking but she is a kind, warm considerate person who you’ll immediately feel relaxed with. Your consultation call with Mel is complimentary and there is no obligation to go ahead after it. To arrange your call simply contact us on 0113 2825900 and we’ll arrange it for you.

Once your case is confirmed you might speak with Sue…

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Why do you work at FinderMonkey?

“Job satisfaction in a nutshell. I go home feeling like my day's work had some kind of meaning. I know it's not all happy endings but I like to think that even the cases with the sad outcomes give the client closure if nothing else. Also I find it really interesting and a constant learning curve so it's fresh and new every day I love my job”

Sue is a senior figure in the trace room. She is an experienced researcher and excellent at solving difficult cases where we only have snippets of information. Each case is allocated to a researcher and if Sue is yours she’s keep you in the loop every step of the way. Sue is excellent at keeping her clients happy with regular updates on your search and will talk openly and honestly about how the search is going and what the next steps are.

If Sue needs any help with your search it will be scaled to me...

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Why do I work at FinderMonkey?

“I came to work here because I was convinced great things could be achieved. It’s now six years later and I feel we are genuinely the leading people tracing company in the UK.  I continue to work here because it feels like we are moving towards even better things and I get an amazing buzz when I help people who have had questions about someone for most of their lives, we can answer those questions and put people’s minds to rest”

If your case is scaled then it might end up on my desk, I work with all our researchers to make sure we leave no stone unturned on each and every case that comes into the trace room. If you speak to me let me know if you enjoyed this article.

Once your case is complete you might have a chat with Phillippa…

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Why do you work at FinderMonkey?

“Because I want to make a difference and I want to be part of an up and coming organisation that can and will go the distance. I work here because we have a great team and I want to be part of this super work that is being done. Doing something that is so emotional for people can be a challenge but it’s our job to look after people and make them feel amazing.”

Phillippa is the Operations Manager at FinderMonkey, she makes sure we’re operating legally and effectively. As part of her job she usually speaks to people we have worked for to gather feedback on the process from our customers point of view, if any issues are raised procedures are improved and processes changed.

Once our work is complete you may be contacted by James. James finds people who would be willing to share their story in newspapers and via television shows, this is something that is individual to each person we work for and you would never be pressured into appearing in a newspaper or on TV if the matter is private to you.

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Why do you work at FinderMonkey?

“I work at FinderMonkey because I love it. I love my colleagues and I love making such a huge difference to people lives. Imagine how it must feel to never meet your father and then all of a sudden you are in touch with him, it’s a scary thought but I believe in the team here and I see first-hand the love and dedication they have for doing this type of work. More than anything I feel proud.”

Well I hope that’s helped you understand more about FinderMonkey and why we do what we do. If you would like to arrange a consultation with Mel. Just call us now on 0113 2825900 and we’ll arrange that for you.

FinderMonkey exist to help you find the missing piece of your jigsaw; to provide answers to the questions that you’ve always had and to support you fully every step of the way.

That's exactly what we did for James, John and Michael Buckley when we reunited them after 49 years. Unfortunately the story has a bittersweet ending. Proving that if you're looking for someone you miss and really want to find, don't wait until it's too late.

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James, John and Michael Buckley - photo by George Carrick

“I want people to know that even after all this time, it is possible to still trace your family so don’t ever give up hope. And act as soon as you can, because time is precious.” - James Buckley

This story was featured in the Daily Record on 1st April 2016. The Daily Record story was written by Jennifer Hyland and the photographs were taken by George Carrick. We wanted to talk to you about our side of the story. We want to publicly thank the Buckley brothers for trusting us to reunite them after so long. We were proud to play our part in their story and would love to play a part in yours.

When Michael Buckley contacted us to find his brother in September last year little did he know that time was running out. He'd been actively looking for his brother John for over 20 years but had never made any real progress with the search himself. Michael had tried online directories, sent letters and even tried using Facebook to locate his little brother but nothing had helped. His luck changed when he came to us. Here at FinderMonkey we specialise in finding hard to trace people. We have access to data thats just not available online and we love a challenge. We genuinely care about finding whoever your looking for and doing so with grace and consideration for all parties.

Michael filled in an enquiry form and then had a chat with Mel one of our trace consultants. If you've already filled in an enquiry form you can arrange a consultation by calling 0113 2825900. As Michael found out the consultation is complementary and a great way for us to talk you through our services and advice you on how we can help you. If you've not already filled in an enquiry form you can fill one in by clicking here

After the consultation Michael decided to go ahead with a search for his brother and the search was passed into our trace room to be started. In this instance the researcher who was allocated the case was Jake. Jake has years of people tracing experience and dedicates his working day to specifically reuniting family members. We asked Jake why he works at FinderMonkey he said "Reuniting friends and families is rewarding and you go home feeling like you have done something positive each day. I find it fascinating hearing peoples stories and looking at how their lives have developed through work, marriage, children and moving" - Jakes dedication to the search led to a breakthrough within three weeks. It changed everything for Michael, James and John. Jake had found an address for John. He wrote him a letter and ended up speaking to Johns wife who burst into tears as John also sobbed in the background, Jake had done it, he'd managed to reunite three brothers after 49 years!

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Unfortunately their time together was cut short, nobody knew when the search started but sadly John Buckley was terminally ill when Jake located him. They had five months together, catching up and most importantly getting to know each other but then the inevitable happened, James said: “when that dreaded phone call came from Michael’s wife, I knew what she was going to say and I was just heartbroken when she said, ‘John passed away’ - Michael and I are so glad we never gave up looking and I want anyone out there who has lost family to keep looking as miracles can happen. If we had found John’s family after he had died, it would have been even harder. Instead we got to meet our brother again. He was a genuinely kind man, who loved his wife Betty of nearly 40 years and loved his stepchildren. Michael and I only wish we had John for longer and wish we had managed to find him sooner. I want people to know that even after all this time, it is possible to still trace your family so don’t ever give up hope. And act as soon as you can, because time is precious."

If you would like to speak to us about finding someone you are missing, even if it's just to see what your options are, call us now on 0113 2825900

To download a guide to FinderMonkey services Click here

To read the full article on the Daily Record website Click here

This week's blog comes from a daughter who was desperately trying to find her birth father. However, she didn't think she had enough information to find him until she came to FinderMonkey.

Here is Amy's story...

"My mum left my dad when I was 3. All I knew for sure was his name and that he was in the army. I couldn't go to family for answers as they all supported mum in keeping a distance. Over the years she would let information slip like where he was from and what he was like. It was never positive but they were all clues.

I tried looking on sites that reunite soldiers and mentioned his name and who I was. A few people recognised the name but were no longer in touch. I also tried contacting a few people that matched his name in the phone book, but with no luck! I realised that with the small amount of information that I had, I wasn't going to get far. So, I searched for help. I found FinderMonkey and read some fantastic reviews. So I decided to give them a try.

I knew that I had limited information and that I was going to have to pay for the service. I ran a risk of losing the money but when I weighed it up, the amount of money I was being asked to hand over was nothing compared with the possibility of being reunited with my biological dad.

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I made the call and spoke to a member of the team who took all of the information that I had to offer and they got to work. I felt like I really mattered and that everyone was trying hard and working quickly to find my dad.

In no time, I was given a last known address and contact number for someone who was believed to be my dad!

I wrote myself a list of things that I wanted to say because I knew I would freeze if this was the right number for my father. I called and listened to the dial tone. It took all of my strength not to hang up, I was shaking with nerves.

A woman answered and I panicked. I asked to speak to Mark but she wanted to know who I was. So, I told her that I think I may be his daughter. I was handed over and the first thing he said was my name - It Was Him!

For 23 years I had felt like he had abandoned my brother and I, but I could hear in his voice that this wasn't the case. He told me that he had tried to stay in touch but that he was told to stay away and the fact that we had moved several times made it impossible for him to find us. He told me that when he closes his eyes he could still see the day my mum drove us away from him as if it were yesterday.

Within a month I went, with my husband, my 2 children, my brother and his partner, to meet my dad. We spent a weekend with him and had a fantastic time. I have since spoken to my grandparents and hope to meet them soon too. I speak as often as I can over the phone with my dad until I can visit again.

This triumph didn't come without it's problems. It did cause a temporary rift in the family because I went against my mums wishes, but I also knew that they would over come any anger they had. We are all fine now, in fact better than ever.

Without FinderMonkey I really don't know if i would have ever been able to find my dad.  I am so grateful to the whole team for putting me back in contact with him.  Amy"

We’d like to thank Amy for letting us share her story and we are so happy that we could help finding her birth father.

This week we have a really amazing story for you about someone who wanted to find their biological father. Imagine being brought up by your parents, only to find out by chance that you were adopted!

This is an amazing story of coincidence and luck, whether that luck was good or bad we’ll let you decide. We’d like to thank Mr Humm for his story and the photograph of him and his Dad and we’d like to wish them all the best for the future.

Hopefully this story highlights, through the words of someone who has been in your shoes just what we can do for you if you trust us.

Over to you Mr Humm…

i want to find my biological father“At the age of 44 I was getting married I couldn't locate my birth certificate I only ever had a short one, so I sent away for a replacement. Rather than get my certificate through the post as I expected, I instead received a call to say that my birth details couldn't be located and after double checking they couldn't find any trace of me. There was someone similar with all the same details as me but a different surname and could I be adopted?. I thought this was ludicrous after all, I had grown up with both parents and they are still around but amazingly the General Registers Office confirmed I was in fact adopted. As you can imagine this led to some very emotionally charged conversations with my parents. But I knew I wanted to find my biological father.

So a few weeks later with very limited info myself and my fiancée set about finding my biological father. After a few weeks we came up with nothing. We saw a story about FinderMonkey on the Internet and they sounded like they could help me. I rang up and gave them the very limited details I had and with little hope of hearing anything, I resigned myself to the fact we had done all we could. A week later we were amazed when we received a call saying they had located my uncle living in Essex. So we wrote him a long letter explaining who we were and asked if he could help. 2 days later my now wife had a call saying the letter was received by a gentleman who confirmed that FinderMonkey were correct and he was my uncle. He told me my father had emigrated to Australia 40 years ago but returned to the UK every 3 years to visit family. Amazingly our letter arrived the day after he had landed in the UK to stay with my uncle!!!.

A few days later me, my pregnant wife and my 3 year old daughter went to Essex for a few days and met my father and some other family. (The photos are from our first meeting in Chelmsford) It went really well and we promised to stay in touch.

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The expert research team at FinderMonkey were fantastic and I was constantly kept informed. I was grateful for the empathy shown to me in what was a very difficult situation. They talked through all my options and I was totally confident, being guided by them.

Since our initial meeting I have constant contact with my father. I have spoken with my half-brother and half-sister and their families too. John (my father) came to stay with us last year to meet my newborn son and we spent good quality time together. I am saving as best I can as I want to meet my siblings and their families while my dad is still around as he suffers with poor health now. The outcome for me was fantastic I could never have done it without FinderMonkey and I am very grateful for the great job they did for me

Thank you so much for your story Mr Humm. To find out you were adopted must have been really difficult but once you’d decided that you wanted find your biological father we were really happy that you chose us and that we were able to help you.

We search for people every single day, just like we did for Mr Humm and we can do the same for you. We understand and we really care about our customers and their families.

If you want us to help you, click here to fill in our form or phone us now on 0113 2825900. We’ll help you if you’re ready but we understand that you might not be, so have a chat with us and if you decide you’re not ready then that’s ok with us. At least you’ll have a clear understanding of how our unique service works and you can come back to us when you feel it is the right time. We know that you have to be ready to do this.

So if are thinking I want to find my biological father or any other family member please, don’t wait another day, let’s have a chat today!

David Oates is our head researcher here at FinderMonkey, he’s written a book called Long Lost Family Tracing and was heavily featured on the TV Show Family Finders. David has written this short article about finding your mother and some of the questions you need to consider before you go ahead and try and find her. If you’re looking for another relative then this information will help you too. Over to you Dave..

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Can you find my mother? This is something we are asked on a daily basis by people just like you. It’s easy to forget just what a massive thing this can be for people and it’s my job and the job of my amazing team to guide you through this process. Our consultation team talk various information from you and talk you through what our process is, we like to make this as clear as we can so that you fully understand what we are going to do for you and to make sure you are 100% comfortable with this.

As I said, we’re approached daily by people just like you who are looking for their birth mother, the reasons that they are not in contact with their mum can vary wildly but the core reasons for wanting to find her are always the same,

  • A desire to know more about your birth mother,
  • A desire to meet her and see what’s she’s like
  • To get the answers to questions you’ve always had whizzing round your head
  • May be if you’ve lost contact more recently and just want to see if she’s Ok.

Whatever the reasons, from my experience once you’ve filled the form on our website, you’ve already made the decision to find her, maybe not via our service but you’ve started your journey and that’s really positive. Some people, maybe even your friends and family will be trying to tell you that it’s not the right thing to do. Everyone has doubts, after all if you’ve never met your mum then finding her IS a big deal, let’s not hide away from that. It’s my job to make it less of a big deal, by finding her as quickly as I can and doing it ethically for all parties. It’s my job and the job of my team to hold your hand through the whole process as much as we can.

As I was saying, everyone has doubts, people doubt about whether we can actually find her (we will), some people doubt about whether it’s the right thing to do (it is) some people want to make sure we’re the right people to use (we are, you can ask us anything you want, you can even come and have a look round the office if that makes you understand that we’re the best around at finding birth parents).

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The truth is, it’s easy to sit here typing away and telling you what you should do but only you can make the decision to find your mother, the simple answer is, if you want to, if you really want to, you can. We will find her and help you contact her if you wish. The reason we were chosen for the TV program Family Finders is because we’re the best at what we do, so if you’ve got that nagging question going round in your head, if you’ve got that feeling in your tummy that just won’t go away, I would urge you to use our service to find your birth mother or any other relative. I can assure you that you’ll be treated with respect, so will your birth mother when we find her. I can assure you that it’s the right thing to do but don’t forget, initially this is just between you and us, we work to a strict code of conduct.

When we are asked, can you find my mother, we say yes!

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I wanted to take the chance to share a couple of emails that we received in response to the blog post (Being A Trace Consultant) a couple of weeks ago. It’s responses like this that justify and clarify why we do what we do and the way in which we do it.  It really shows what a pleasure it is to help change people lives in every way we possibly can…

This wonderful reply was from a client who has an ongoing case with us at the moment…changing-peoples-lives

 I hope you don’t mind, but I have just read your Blog on FinderMonkeys Facebook Page. I am not on Facebook, but I just wanted to take the time to say well done!

It’s a lovely article, especially as it’s your first one! I especially loved the bit where it says ‘FinderMonkey will hold your hand through the whole process’ because that’s just how I feel you have done for me, from that very first email to you, until now. I am so glad I found your company by accident that day, and took that leap of faith, because as I have had said before, I know that the journey to find my birth mum couldn’t be in better hands with you all. 

After reading this I emailed a few people again to let them know what kind words we received which led to a different client who has completed their journey with us to say this…

 I just want to say how I completely concur with the person who contacted you via Facebook. I, too, found FinderMonkey quite accidentally and picked up the 'phone on impulse when I was searching for my sister. I was given sound advice all the way through and certainly felt that FinderMonkey were 'holding my hand through the whole process'. My sister was found to have died in 2008 and I was amazed at the sensitivity with which this news was given to me.

The outcome has been brilliant insofar as I have discovered a whole new family (my nephew and his wife, a great-niece and nephew and a gorgeous great great-niece). We are in constant touch, we have spent a very memorable day together and are due to meet up again in the next week or so. I think we all feel very lucky to have found each other - I'm not sure this would have happened if I hadn't made that impulsive phone call!

I feel mine is quite an interesting and possibly unique story and I will write some more at a later date as it might be helpful to others who find themselves in a similar situation. I have found this all quite life-changing, shedding a completely different light on family relationships and obviously needing time to adjust. But I'll always be so grateful to FinderMonkey who were able to solve the case so quickly and so sensitively, giving me the opportunity to find a wonderful family I had no idea I had! Thank you FinderMonkey. 

Amazing words and how thankful we are to have been a part of it.

Let us be a part of yours story too, 0113 2825900.

After receiving some great feedback from last weeks blog, we thought we'd introduce you to another member of our team.  This weeks blog post, is from Jade one of our Expert Trace Researchers.  We asked her to tell you little about working at FinderMonkey and what her role entails.  Take it away Jade...

I’m Jade, I saw James’ blog post last week and thought it would be great for you to see my side of the working at FinderMonkey.

Jade Trace ResearcherI have been with FinderMonkey for 3 years, it was a little daunting when I started, not only was it my first full time job but it was a little overwhelming once it dawned on me how important what we do really is.

After about a year, I started to work more closely with David Oates our head researcher.  He has taught me so much to get me on the right track to be able to trace people and to be honest I still learn so much from him now. Not many people can say they have been personally mentored by one of the UK’s leading genealogists can they?

It’s a little difficult to talk about what we “technically” do because we are constantly expanding our knowledge and adapting our skills to stay the best at being the most successful tracing team.

Our service is definitely unique because it means so much to us knowing that we are changing people lives and this is not just through being able to access the best and most accurate information but its more because we really do care about getting you the answers you need.

I think it’s great that we can take that stress and pressure away from people and I know full well that we will do whatever we can to find who you are looking for.

I still find it hard now dealing with the highs and lows of the job. Knowing that people are trusting us with such delicate and personal information and the pressure of dealing with each individual case on an emotional level too. I’m not sure that’s something I’ll ever learn to deal with but If I’m honest I’m not sure I want to, being able to share these emotions with you helps keep my focus and that is what makes FinderMonkey the company they are today.

It truly is a pleasure to work here, and I feel lucky to be working for the UK’s leading tracing company. I know and can say in full and honest confidence from seeing it and living it every day, we can help you, just trust me.

In this weeks blog post, we thought we'd introduce you to one of our Expert Trace Consultants, James Thackray.  We asked him to tell you little about working at FinderMonkey and what his role entails.  Take it away James...

Hi,

My name is James, I’ve been with FinderMonkey for around 15 months now, and it’s quite likely I will have spoken to a few of you already.

When I first started here I was nervous, I’d never really had a job where I have had to speak to people about such delicate information. I mean don’t get me wrong, I will generally speak to anyone about anything (that’s probably part of the reason why I’m here) but in a lot of cases it’s an emotional journey (for both of us) and it’s an absolute pleasure to be a part of it too.

Trace Consultant - James ThackrayI always knew I would be doing something different, I always claimed that I would do something that makes a difference to people’s lives and I really think I have finally found my calling.

The team here are amazing, the compassion, understanding and dedication they all show is part of the reason we have been established as the UKs leading Tracing Company, that and the work of David Oates, our head researcher and his team.

The capabilities that Dave shows are incredible, he goes above and beyond for each and every case.  He pushes the limits to get the answers and results that people need. Now, imparting this skills and knowledge onto the rest of the trace team he is building an unstoppable army of people finding experts. Rocketing our success rate to unimaginable heights and for the past 12 months this has never dropped below 92%, amazing!

Knowing all of these facts makes my part even easier and it has allowed me to kick the nerves aside. I know that when people come to us with limited information, when people are looking for someone they have not seen for years or sometimes ever, when people say “I’ve tried everything, you’ll never find them” or “I’ve hit a brick wall, what more can you do?”

My answer is easy…You’ve never used us.

The facts speak for themselves, we can help you and we will do whatever it takes and everything within our power to get the answers you need.

Sometimes you just need to take a leap of faith, and FinderMonkey will hold your hand through the whole process.

If you need to talk you know where I am 0113 2825900.

We haven’t done a blog in a long time, we’ve been so busy since our TV debut. Did you watch Family Finders?

It was a 15 part TV documentary about how we trace lost relatives and old friends throughout the UK. If you want to watch an episode then I’d recommend watching this one – CLICK HERE TO WATCH FAMILY FINDERS

The program was a massive success and really showcased us as the UK’s leading people tracing service. David Oates our head researcher quickly became the ‘face’ of FinderMonkey as he explained in detail, how we had helped connect people who hadn’t see each other for years and years or in some cases had never even met.

Andrea WoodThe show also featured our amazing customers who had used our service, people like Andrea Wood (pictured left), she contacted us to find her father. She was interviewed at length about how we managed to find her father when she only had minimal information to go on, luckily David was soon on the case and working out how he could find her father for her. We did and they now go on holiday together! The show also featured the people we located. It was both interesting and insightful to hear their side of the story too. It was interesting to hear how separations had occurred in the first place and how they felt helpless to make that first move towards reconciliation when they had been the ones to walk away in the first place.

As you can imagine the show had a positive effect on our business as more people knew about us and the work we do but not only that, they could also see the passion and commitment David and his incredible team showed on each episode to find the people our customers were looking for.

Our job is amazing and we don’t take what we do for granted, yes we are a business and we have to make money but we understand that we are dealing with peoples hopes and dreams, finding answers to the questions they’ve always had going round in their heads.

We’re reconnecting brothers with sisters, sons with fathers, daughters with mothers. To each and every single person who comes to us we absolutely always do our best to help.

Whether you’ve already been reconnected with someone or whether you are still looking, FinderMonkey would love to hear from you in relation to some future TV projects. If you have an interesting story then please email us at tv@findermonkey.co.uk

She was looking for the father she’d never met….

What happened next is amazing!

Andrea, came to us to trace her father. This is her amazing story…

“My husband lost his father to cancer in 2011, this made me realise that life is too short and I didn’t even know if my dad was still alive. I felt that I had missed out long enough and also that my two sons would also enjoy having another Grandad”

“I’d never met my father so I constantly wondered if I was anything like him. My mum re-married and went on to have three sons with my step-father. I love my brothers very much but always felt very different. I wanted to know who I was, where I was from as I am very different to my mum too. I thought, if I met my father it might fill in these blanks”

Where to Begin…

“I knew where my father's parents lived, I used to visit them every couple of months. Once they passed away I had no way of knowing where my dad was, my mum never wanted to speak to me about him either so I did not know which way to turn. Just after my husband lost his dad, we were discussing things and my Dad came up in the conversation, John (my husband) said that 'you will never find your father, you’ve been saying you will for years'. I think I needed this push, as the next day while waiting for my boys to finish school, I searched for trace companies who could help. FinderMonkey came up in the search and when I saw the amount of people they’d already reunited I knew that I had to use them”

 “It was a very straight forward form to fill out, took me about 20 minutes to fill the information that I knew. I didn’t have any doubts at this point, I had already prepared myself for the possibility that he may not be alive or even not want to know me. The process was unbelievably quick, I filled the form in on Friday, I had the details on the following Wednesday!!

I took a week and put a letter together, then I posted it and waited for what seemed a lifetime.

I picked the time that my dad was on holiday for two weeks so I did not get a response for just over two weeks, my initial thoughts were that he didn’t want to know me. When I finally received a letter it was great news, he wanted to meet.”

“It was nerve wracking when I first spoke to him for the first time, I was shaking when on the phone and then I cried when the call was over, so many happy emotions! We have since been on two holidays, one of them Florida and we've been having the time of our lives, making up for lost time. My sons get so excited when Grandad is coming to stay, best thing I have ever done!! I can't thank you enough, you have changed my life for the better. I hope you continue to do the great work that you have done so far and I would be happy to help promote your business if I can.

I’ve seen some people mentioning the money that FinderMonkey charge to find someone and say they can’t afford it but to me, getting to know my Dad has been priceless. I can honestly say that FinderMonkey changed my life and in my opinion it was worth a few hundred pounds to do that”

FinderMonkey are the UK’s Leading People Tracing Company. Specialising in tracing old friends and long lost family members to their current address.

To Have Your Exact Person Traced to Their Exact Address call 0113 2825900

I didn’t get chance to do a blog post last week for two reasons. Firstly I was flat out busy all week, what with the TV work as well as been a busy week with new cases I didn’t have time to stop for a second. My team and I were working incredibly hard all week and I’d like to thank Jade, James and Jake for their hard work and effort at the moment because we’re starting to get the rewards now for our hard earned reputation as the UK’s leading people tracing service. Secondly I had a day off last Friday, we had a family occasion to celebrate so we travelled down to Norfolk from Leeds and spent a couple lovely days with our extended family.

SeaThe sea at Heacham Beach last Friday...

 

The weather wasn’t great and the sea was rough when we went for a walk on the beach but we still had a great time.

Whilst I was down in Norfolk I realised that I hadn’t done my weekly blog post and I was annoyed with myself. It was a good time to reflect on the blog posts that we have done this year. We really built up a head of steam with them for a while, we were showcasing our customer’s stories each Friday and people were really enjoying them and seeing that we were incredibly serious in our efforts to be the best, most well-known and respected people tracing company in the UK. The thing that surprised us was we only had to showcase these stories for all of two months and a TV production company comes along, reads them and then uses some of them in a new TV show, they’ve also filmed me talking about the stories and Ryan our director too. This is amazing for us and again is another string in our bow towards becoming the most trusted people tracing company but it caused me a problem (a good problem though!). All the good stories we were using for the blog have now been syphoned off for TV, that’s great news for us but not such great news for the blog each week. What can I write about? What should I tell you about? What would you like to know about? Would you like help with anything or advice on how you should proceed with something? Whatever you want to know I want to help you.

Just drop me an email at info@findermonkey.co.uk and use Dave’s Help as the subject line of the email (this will ensure that it gets to me) and I’ll be happy to either use you suggestion as a blog post or if it’s more appropriate I’ll reply privately.

We want to make FinderMonkey a one stop shop for anyone in the UK who is looking for someone they have lost touch with, at the moment we only have our service which isn’t right for everyone. So please get back to me, I’d love to hear from you and you never know, I might just be able to help.

If you need to find someone you've lost touch with then give us a call now on 0113 2825900, we're here to help you.

Hi Its Dave here, head researcher at FinderMonkey Ltd. I had a really great blog post for this week, about a chap who we reunited with some old friends. There were lots of them. They’d been on an adventure to Far East in the 1960’s and then lost touch as you do, over the subsequent years. Our customer asked us to trace one of them and that lead to all of them been found, expect one, who we’re still looking for. It was such a great story and would have made a great blog post but that’s story has now been picked up by the TV people we are working with and leaves me with no blog post for this week.

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As a consequence I thought I’d write about how we got involved with the TV companies in the first place. Been involved with TV shows was something that we’d wanted to do for a few years but couldn’t really figure out how to get into it. We’d called a few production companies but never heard anything back and we always seemed to hit a brick wall.

So what changed?

Well around Christmas time I was discussing with the directors how we could get our potential customers to really trust us, after all what we’re asked to do is vital to some people’s lives, so they need to see the value in the service we offer. We are not a cheap service but we are the best and we need to convey that in our message to potential customers. So how could we get people like you to trust us? It’s easy to say you should trust us but you don’t see the level of effort and dedication that goes into some of the cases we do so how can we prove that you should trust us?

We’ve always tried to show how you can trust us to do a good job for you by mentioning…

-    We’ve been trading since 2007 – A limited company since 2009
-    We’re on the other end of the phone i.e. we’re real people not just a website
-    We have access to systems that you can’t access
-    We’re professional and experts at what we do
-    We have an 87% success rate

But that’s just stuff that anybody could say. How could we really prove that we were better than any other company doing this type of work? How could we show that we’re worth our fees? How could we build genuine trust with potential customers?

We thought long and hard and spoke to our mentor about it all and we came up with the idea of asking customers who’d we’d already worked for. Getting them to write up their experiences about using FinderMonkey and about how it felt to be back in touch with their dad or old friend etc.

The great news for us was lots of customers were happy to help. Some wanted anonymity but that was ok, you could still read their passion for what we had done, others were happy for us to use their names and some very generous customers even allowed us to use their photos. Of course not all customers wanted to tell their story and that was fine too, we understand that this is a private matter for a lot of people.
This was a real turning point for us. Now we have proof from real people that we can do what we said we can do, that we were genuine people ready and waiting to help you. This third party endorsement really opened the TV door. Everyone who reads the blog posts sees that it’s not only us who think we’re the best, it’s also our customers who’ve already been through the process. The TV people, like many other people read these stories and were impressed by what they saw.

Hopefully when people see our offices on TV and see our customers and staff talking on TV they will appreciate even more that we are the real deal and the only company you can come to if you’re serious about finding someone missing from your life, whether that’s an old friend or a long lost relative.

If you want to start your journey, don’t wait another day. Give us a call now on 0113 2825900

If you want to read about our success stories, the links to those are on the right of this page

Are You Ready To Find Them...

I had two really great stories for this week’s blog post but they been passed across to the TV production company that we’re working with, so I thought I’d write something myself this week rather than use a customer’s case study. I can’t talk too much about the TV show but it’s going to be on telly in early June and will be featuring some of our success stories. It’s great to be approached regarding TV work as it’s another sign that we are now widely regarded as the UK’s leading people service for finding long lost family and old friends. That leads me on nicely to what I wanted to talk about this week.

I speak to around twenty people a day and James, one of my team speaks to about the same again. These are people who are looking for people they’ve lost touch with. Once question that keeps coming up when we speak to people is what reaction they face when the person they are looking for is found. This makes them so nervous that they sometimes don’t feel ready to go ahead with a search. Now I understand this and I sympathise with them and try to explain my thoughts on the matter. I thought I’d write this week’s blog post about this subject.

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Are You Ready To Find Them
I have given this subject some thought and I have spoken about it before but it’s really important to make people understand that they shouldn’t feel nervous about tracing someone, as long as you use a reputable company. Obviously that’s easier said than done but what I mean is this…

I believe that you have a right to know who you are and where you came from and truthfully speaking the negative emotions are mainly (although not exclusively) connected to people who are looking for a long lost family member, usually one of their birth parents. I think that people who are looking for their birth parents are most worried about the reaction they will get if we trace their birth mother or father. Is it better not knowing than opening a can of worms and finding out they are not nice or they don’t care, that fear of reaction is massive.  I can’t say how each individual person will react but what I can say is once you’ve thought about tracing someone, whether that’s a birth parent, another family member or an old friend you’ll forever be thinking about it, so getting answers will stop that worry. Most people are happy to be found but as with everything in life, there are no guarantees. On the rare occasion that we have a difficult search, we support the customer through the process and they often talk about getting answers and feeling settled with the outcome even though it wasn’t rose tinted. Its really about managing expectations for everybody. That’s why if you’re thinking about tracing anybody, you should use us to do, we’re not the cheapest but we are the best and we’re the best because we care.

I read on an adoption website that tracing a missing family member is a cathartic thing to do regardless of the outcome. Because one way or another you’ll get closure on that part of your life. I hope this has helped you make your decision. If you do want a chat with me about finding someone you can call us to arrange an appointment on 0113 2825000 and we can have a chat.

Finding My Sisters

Hi its Dave here, head researcher at FinderMonkey. This week’s blog post is a real corker. We were contacted by this customer a few month ago, here is her story of why she wanted to contact her sisters, how we found them and the impact it had on her life. She didn’t want to be named and as usual we were happy to oblige but the story is really interesting. I’d like to say thank you to her for writing it because she was very nervous about doing so. See you next week…

I found out about three years ago that I have two half-sisters, through my dad who I had lost contact with when I was around 2 years old. I wasn’t brought up with any blood siblings so this was a massive shock to me that I actually had two sisters out there!! Once I knew they were out there I toyed with the idea of finding my sisters somehow and getting in touch with them but I was so scared of their reactions, did they know I even existed? If they did what had they been told about the situation? Would they want a new person in their life? It was just question after question and it always held me back.

Finding My Sisters

After I had my first child I really felt like the time was right to try to find my sisters and see what reaction I got from them, I wanted to know more about my dad’s side of the family and I wanted them to know they had a niece, granddaughter, great granddaughter, cousin! It suddenly became really important to me.

One day I decided to search online to see how I could go about finding them, I didn’t even know their names but I did of course know their dads name because he was my Dad too. I came across the FinderMonkey website and it looked like the exact service I needed! Fear got the better of me though and it was a few weeks before I actually got the courage to call up and talk to them. I spoke to Dave initially and told him everything that was a relief in itself and he spoke with such authority. I immediately knew I was in good hands. It felt great to finally be doing something to help me locate my sisters. Dave went through everything with me, all the possibilities and even talked me through and gave me advice on if I would wanted FinderMonkey to act as an intermediary for me. What an excellent service to offer and perfect for my situation, it would mean if my sisters really didn’t want to know anything about me or were not interested then FinderMonkey would deal with all of it and just let me know what the outcome was.

Dave ran through the prices with me and I didn’t hesitate, for me there was no hesitation I just wanted to find my sisters. I placed my order and within a week I had a call from Dave telling me he had located both of my sisters!! I was overwhelmed, to just hear their names was wonderful finally knowing. Dave confirmed that I still wanted FinderMonkey to act as an intermediary and of course I did. So the letters were sent out. I was so full of anticipation during this time, some days I would be excited and others so nervous about the outcome. Less than a week after that I had an amazing phone call from FinderMonkey to tell me that one of my sisters had called the office after receiving the letter and straight away asked if it was relating to me and if I was the one looking for them. They had known all about me since they were young and both of them were absolutely thrilled I had managed to track them down. It was so emotional and Dave dealt with it exactly as I needed, I am sure I even heard a little sniffle from him through my own tears!

I cannot thank FinderMonkey enough for what they have done for me and my family. After years of being apart we are now building a strong relationship and looking forward to a future together. My case was dealt with quickly and professionally with empathy and understanding all the way through. I was kept fully up to date with progress and was thrilled with the service I received.

Thank you so much to Dave and all the team at FinderMonkey Ltd for finding my sisters!

If you want to start your own search for your sisters or any lost family or old friends please call us now on 0113 2825900 to arrange a complimentary consultation.

These 4 Jaw dropping, life changing People Search videos will really get you thinking. Just imagine been back in touch with someone you care about. Would you feel the same as the people in these videos? When you get to the bottom of what happened to the person you are looking for, its a real life changing moment and these videos will show you why.

People Search Video One - A womans Emotional Reunion With Her Long Lost Dad

A woman turns to Bethenny (an americal talk show) and investigative genealogist Pamela Slaton to find the father she hasn't seen since childhood.This is an emotional amazing video. You can see what it means to both of them and really explains why these matters are not always as clear as they first appear. There are two sides to every story as they say. We love this video here at FinderMonkey

People Search Video Two - Long Lost Sister Found

 

An amazing story of love and determination. Steve Inman and his family had been searching for his sister for nearly 4 decades. Thanks to Steve's efforts and Facebook they have been reunited. What a brilliant story. This news report really manages to convey the emotions that people feel in this situation. Tears of joy, tears of relief.

People Search Video Three - Family Reunion

 

If you can watch this video without crying then your better than we are. This short but lovely video shows how happy a reunion can be. You can see the unbridled joy in all their faces. This is after three years apart, we've had of people been reunited after thirty, forty, even fifty years apart.

People Search Video Four - The Big Aussie Reunion

This video has been viewed over 250,000 times since it was uploaded. When you watch it you'll see why! Last October, Flight Centre UK and Tourism and Events Queensland launched The Big Aussie Reunion competition to give UK residents the chance to see their long lost friends and families in Australia. We took them to Queensland's Gold Coast where the Aussies choose to go on their holidays, to give them the best memories and moments to share together. Watch the video to see what happened.

We hope you enjoyed watching these videos. Its really awesome to see peoples reactions to these special moments in their lives. If you have someone missing from your life, whether this is an old friend or a long lost family member, have a look around our site and see if there is any help and advice that gets you on your way to your own special reunion.

 

How To Find Your Father

I’m David Oates, Head Researcher here at FinderMonkey, you might have read about me in the papers or heard me on the Radio (Still working on getting on TV!), and I’m one of the UK’s leading experts at tracing long lost family members.

This week’s blog post is written after I interviewed a customer of ours after we successfully located the father she had never met. The words are her own. I’ve added my thoughts in bold so you can see her side of the story and also our side and how the two compare. Anyone who is thinking of using FinderMonkey to locate their father needs to know how important we will treat their search, we don’t just provide a list of names we trace your exact person.

Anyway I digress, over to Andrea Wood…

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“My husband lost his father to cancer in 2011, this made me realise that life is too short and I didn’t even know if my dad was still alive. I felt that I had missed out long enough and also that my two sons would also enjoy having another Grandad” Dave Says  – It’s pretty common for people to have a moment in their life when they decide once and for all that they are ready to find their long lost relative.

Who Am I?

“I’d never met my father so I constantly wondered if I was anything like him. My mum re-married and went on to have three sons with my step-father. I love my brothers very much but always felt very different. I wanted to know who I was, where I was from as I am very different to my mum too. I thought, if I met my father it might fill in these blanks” Dave Says – Again it pretty common to want to know more about who you are and where you come from.

Where to Begin…

“I knew where my father's parents lived, I used to visit them every couple of months. Once they passed away I had no way of knowing where my dad was, my mum never wanted to speak to me about him either so I did not know which way to turn. Just after my husband lost his dad, we were discussing things and my Dad came up in the conversation, John (my husband) said that 'you will never find your father, you’ve been saying you will for years'. I think I needed this push, as the next day while waiting for my boys to finish school, I searched for trace companies who could help. FinderMonkey came up in the search and when I saw the amount of people they’d already reunited I knew that I had to use them” Dave Says – Not knowing where to start is common, there are other trace companies out there or you could try and find the relative yourself but the truth is, we’re the leading people tracing company in the UK for a reason!

Back to you Andrea…

“It was a very straight forward form to fill out, took me about 20 minutes to fill the information that I knew. I didn’t have any doubts at this point, I had already prepared myself for the possibility that he may not be alive or even not want to know me. The process was unbelievably quick, I filled the form in on Friday, I had the details on the following Wednesday!!

I took a week and put a letter together, then I posted it and waited for what seemed a lifetime.

I picked the time that my dad was on holiday for two weeks so I did not get a response for just over two weeks, my initial thoughts were that he didn’t want to know me. When I finally received a letter it was great news, he wanted to meet.” Dave Says – The work that goes into each case does vary but we tend to put two researchers on a case where we think we can make an immediate breakthrough. With some cases we have to order old documents such as birth records and this can slow the process down. We aim to conclude all cases within 28 days.

How To Find Your Father...

“It was nerve wracking when I first spoke to him for the first time, I was shaking when on the phone and then I cried when the call was over, so many happy emotions! We have since been on two holidays, one of them Florida and we've been having the time of our lives, making up for lost time. My sons get so excited when Grandad is coming to stay, best thing I have ever done!! I can't thank you enough, you have changed my life for the better. I hope you continue to do the great work that you have done so far and I would be happy to help promote your business if I can.

I’ve seen some people mentioning the money that FinderMonkey charge to find someone and say they can’t afford it but to me, getting to know my Dad has been priceless. I can honestly say that FinderMonkey changed my life and in my opinion it was worth a few hundred pounds to do that”

Dave Says - We just wanted to say a big thank you to Andrea for allowing us to put her story on our website. It’s amazing making a difference to people lives and we don’t take that for granted.

We truly believe that everyone has a right to know more about where they come from and who they are. Our mission is to help you get back in touch with your long lost relative as quickly and cost effectively as possible.

If we’ve helped you and you’d like to tell the world your story then we’d love to hear from you.

If you’re ready to go ahead with your own search then don’t wait another day, call us now on 0113 2825900.

This is our second story, this was our feature blog a few weeks ago.

How To Find Your Father. One Mans Story. Hi its Dave here, head researcher at FinderMonkey – The People Tracing Experts, thanks for reading my blog this week.  I’ve had another busy week helping many people find the person missing from their lives.  I also had a lovely surprise yesterday from a customer we helped last year to find her father.  We had a hamper of food, full of fruit and baked goodies, delivered for all the guys in the office, which was great because they all work really hard to solve each case, it’s not just me!  The customer in question took things very slowly with her dad and they have developed a great relationship with each other as well as getting to know a sister she never knew of!

 This week’s blog post is a great story…

Late last year Antony Speight contacted us as he wanted to find his father, whom he had not had contact with for over 50 years. Antony was determined to find his dad and after trying on his own he contacted us to help.  I spoke with him this week to discuss his search and here’s what he had to say.  My questions are shown in bold, Antony's answers are underneath.

Antony Speight

Why did you decide to find your father after so long?
My mum passed away a few years ago and just before she died, she gave me some information she knew about him.  Until then I had never tried to find him as I didn’t know anything about him.  Having searched since my mother died without success, last year I made the decision I really needed some help as I really wanted to find him. It had been 52 years since he left my mother and I had many questions I wanted answers to.  Like why did he leave my mother to raise me alone? I really wanted to know what had happened and I wanted his version of events back then.

What made you come to FinderMonkey for help?
We had done a lot of searching.  I had tried websites like ancestry, various libraries and I had even visited Bournemouth, where he was last known to be.  I spent endless hours searching, and felt I had exhausted all avenues.  I decided to contact a local paper in Bournemouth to see if they could help and I also contacted FinderMonkey.  We found you on the internet and decided to hire you after we had hit a brick wall. I gave you all the information I had and left it with you.

"We had no doubt whatsoever once we had hired you having spoken with you before going ahead and reading other peoples testimonials"

How did the search go from your point of view?
The process was a simple one, although we gave you very little to go on and it was really quick. You found his birth record quickly and ordered a copy of it to get his full date of birth.  At the same time the paper ran our story and we waited for news.  A week later you contacted us saying you had found my dad living in the Bournemouth area, where he was last known to be.  I don’t know how you did it because I had tried this myself.  Unbelievably the evening before you called us we had also received contact from someone who had responded to the newspaper.  He knew my father and he gave us the same address, so we knew you were right!  The information you provided filled in a lot of blanks and told us about his marriages and where he had been living in the last few years etc.How did you feel when we called you and told him we had found him?

When you rang us and gave us the news we were ecstatic to say the least.  It’s hard to describe really.  When you have been searching for so long you sometimes think it’s just never going to happen.What did you do next? We put a short letter together along with a photo of me and my three boys and posted it to the address we had.  We didn’t have to wait for long, he called me the day after!  We spoke for a couple of hours and have spoken over the phone every week since.  He has also sent us photos of himself and his partner. I haven’t rushed things as my dad is 75 now and we have still to meet up.  We have however planned it in the next few weeks and he has arranged for us to stay in a hotel down there.  We are both looking forward with excitement to meeting, it will be a big day in our lives.

"I can’t thank you guys enough for you what you have done for me.  It really has changed my life and I will always be grateful"

I would like to thank Antony for taking the time to share his experience and I hope you enjoyed hearing his story. If anyone else would like to share their story please get in touch, I’d love to hear from you. If you’re ready to start your own search then call us on 0113 2825900 and we’ll arrange a free consultation. Once you’ve had your consultation we’ll provide the exact price for the work and then you can decide if you are ready to go ahead, it’s that simple and if you’re serious about finding your person like Antony was then don’t wait another day, we’d love to hear from you. We can help you to answer the question "How To Find Your Father"

This week’s blog post is a bit different to some of our other customer stories of the last few weeks. This one doesn’t end how you would expect but the outcome is really positive for all concerned. This is blog has been written by FinderMonkey customer Pamela Smith, she contacted us and tasked us with finding her husband’s birth father. We would like to thank Pamela for writing up her experience with FinderMonkey and wish her and her husband all the best with their new found family. Over to you Pamela…

Finding Pamela's Long Lost Family

Well here goes. My Story for your blog.It all started around August last year when I told my Husband that I was going to request his file from the Council that had him fostered out over 50 years ago. I found out through researching on the internet that you could ask for this information now.

I was very happy to have got it too as my Husband was never adopted so we could never go down that route. It took a few weeks to get the file which was very large so I sat down and after a week of reading I had some understanding of what he had gone through, the file was full of so many mind blowing things I cried for days.

Out of hundreds of pages of information that was sent to me, there was one page that gave me some information that was a real shock. My husband was told by his Mother who he traced ten years back that his Father took him to a children’s home and said he would go back for him when they could afford it. Also that he was a violent man, So My Husband decided not to bother looking for him if he just dumped him, well one page of the file told a different story. His Father went along with his Mothers wishes but he wanted to keep him. Also another struggle was my Husband always believed he had two birth certificates which I knew could not be right.

So at that stage my Husband asked me if I could find his Father. So that's when I started. I did sign up to 192 and did some research which was expensive because once you have used your searches you have to pay again for more. I didn't want to throw good money after bad so I stopped. I then signed up to Ancestry UK to search for my Husbands birth certificate,I got that information and spoke to the registrar in his district who confirmed what I had suspected you only have one. So I sent off for that. Which is now first page of many in his file.

So many thing going through my head it was mind blowing what to do next. So I watched a long lost family catch up and thought I could contact them? Oh no I couldn't my Husband is too private for that. Then in the break I saw an advert of a company called FinderMonkey. Thought and thought then sod it I picked up the phone. One of the best decisions I have ever made.

I spoke to someone who said they would get Dave to give me a call. He did call me and I gave him some information to start the ball rolling, believe me it was not a lot. We emailed and had a few phone calls as you do to confirm a few things and one important thing was my Husband may have a sibling as one page in his file said that another baby was born the following year after my Husband was put in care. Well I left Dave and his team too it and waited. Well blow me down about two weeks later I got a call from Dave saying I think we have found some information but I cannot confirm until I get a certificate back, but if I am right I'm sure that your Husbands Father has passed away. I was gutted but we had spoken and thought that may be the case, even though it didn't make it easier to hear that. I was praying he would be alive.

Then the phone call came. Dave said he had found out my Husbands Father had passed in 2012 my stomach jolted, but on a good note we have found my husband had a Brother, also may be another younger on too. So Dave emailed me a full report of everything he had found and a copy of all the certificates so I could see what work had been done and how he had arrived at the conclusions he had.

More things to take in. Dave also gave me some great advice for the best way to contact my husband’s brother. This was to write a letter, but me being me I decided to make the phone call instead. I am a very diplomatic person and was confident I could handle it.So I picked up the phone and spoke to his Brother whom was shocked to the core. I told him about this one piece of information that I had from my Husbands file which was so black and white that you could not run from it. We talked and he was very calm he asked me to email this page to him which I did. He also told me that my Husband has three younger Brothers who were left by their Mother with his Father. Once he has spoken to his Brothers he would call me back.

So I then phoned Dave at FinderMonkey to thank him and tell him that all was correct. That was on the Tuesday, on the Wednesday it was our 21st wedding Anniversary and we had a day trip planned to London so we went as planned, even though there was so much going on, I thought it would be good to get away from it all for a few hours. All we could talk about was his Brothers. I then said we need to get home as I know your Brother will phone. He did. He spoke to my Husband both in shock but they talked. Then as we were on Holiday my Husband said I need to meet you so we will come and see you Thursday, here is me thinking OMG that's a long way to go but we did.

So the meeting came two days after the phone call from Dave at FinderMonkey. He not only has three Brother but seven nephews and one niece. If I'm honest it was all very overbearing for everyone to meet up at once things go round and round. Emotions all over the place we left two days later.They have spoken every week since and are also coming up to see us now in a couple of weeks so onwards and upwards. What more can I say but Thank you guys so so much from the bottom of our Hearts. I'm so so pleased that fostering laws have now changed as well so young children that are fostered will be told they have siblings its cruel to find out years later that you have missed out through no fault of your own.

Thanks Guys
Pamela.

That’s it for this week’s blog post. We’ll be back next week with another story for you. Before we go we would just like to thank Pamela for her story and wish her and her husband (and his brothers, nephews and niece!) the best for the future.

REMEMBER : If you're ready to start your story we're just a phone call away 0113 2825900

If tracing your birth mother is something that you are looking to do. Then please read through this amazing story. To be honest this will be of interest to anyone who has searched for a person or is thinking of doing so and that’s why it’s this week’s blog post. This is a 100% genuine email that I received last week. I thought it would make a great blog post as it really goes deep on what this means to people.

As with previous customer emails we pass this around the office so all staff can see how important the work we carry out is to people. So whether you are tracing your birth mother or someone else I think you’ll find some really great stuff in her. I love the part where she phones her birth mother for the first time…

“Again apologies this has taken me so long but hopefully it will be of some use to you. I've tried to answer your questions as truthfully as possible, but to be perfectly honest with you to some extent it's nigh on impossible to actually put some of my feelings into words, however I've given it my best shot!The feelings that initiated my latest decision to search for my birth mother were probably just feelings of time running out. I have always known I was adopted and I've have always had a deep need to find to find my birth mother but out of respect for my adoptive parents I have never really done much about it. However I was aware that none of us is going to live forever and I would not have forgiven myself if I'd left it too late so to speak.

For myself the feelings and reasons for wanting to find my birth mother were various. There were the practical reasons such as wanting some sort of medical history. So many times throughout my life doctors have asked for any family medical history and every time that I have answered that I didn't have any due to being adopted I've felt a sort of shame mixed with worry that I missing some important information I should know. This may sound silly but common sense does get rather mixed up with emotion sometimes. Another reason for wanting to find my birth mother was a feeling I've had that my life was a bit like a book with the first chapter missing, so it didn't make much sense so to speak. I also wanted to know if I'd been loved or was just seen as a terrible mistake, which would have been hard to take, but was still a question that needed to be answered.

I had done a couple of searches before. The first time was sixteen years ago using a professional but I backed out before it had really begun as my marriage ended and I felt it would possibly be too much emotionally to handle at that time. Over the last couple of years I have been online myself and attempted to do some research, but armed with very little information I found it quite tough. I thought a couple of people were possible, but I lacked anything solid to prove it. Neither of them were by the way!

I initially saw FinderMonkey on Facebook. This was last summertime I think, and I supplied my email address and mobile number but the first couple of times you called I was at work and unable to answer. Then I decided it would be too expensive for me at that time - finding excuses perhaps! - And I just put it to the back of my mind. Then in early December I received an email from you offering to find her again. I couldn't find any excuses at that point and something just made me respond. I felt very happy to go ahead as I was impressed with how friendly everyone I spoke to was. I felt I was well informed at every point as to possible outcomes and how the process worked. I confess my memory of the events of that week and the following week are a little hazy as I think I was in a state of shock! I think I just kind of decided to jump in and go with the flow. I do remember being terrified that you would be unable to find her as this would mean game over so to speak. At the same time I was terrified that you would find her - that she wouldn't respond, or she would respond and deny all knowledge of me, or confirm that she was my birth mother but wanted no contact with me. I must admit that at that point it did seem that the outcome I was hoping for seemed to be rather a slim chance and I had a couple of sleepless nights.

When I was told that you believed you had found her, I was shocked to say the least, and scared too, for the reasons I've just mentioned and the thought of a rejection. If that had happened I would have been truly devastated and this was one of the reasons I decided to use your intermediary service. I thought that way I could remain a little detached from the whole thing and therefore felt more protected. Whilst waiting for a response to the letter everything felt a little unreal and to some extent I had to block off from it all. It's difficult to cope with something this big, you have to understand this has been a huge thing in my life and the fact I was eventually going to get some sort of conclusion to it was extremely frightening. When I received the call to say she had responded and confirmed she was my birth mother I felt utterly and totally shocked.

I'm very grateful for how understanding and professional you were during that call and was very pleased that you offered to call back later when it had sunk in! Nothing in my life could have prepared me for that call- obviously I felt relief that she had confirmed who she was- but to then find out she was happy to have been found was beyond my wildest dreams. I think it was wise to wait a couple of days before contacting each other as it had all happened so very quickly I think we both needed to get our heads around it. I was an emotional wreak on the day I was going to call her, in fact I had to leave work early. The build-up of emotion was just too much. It was surreal to think I was actually going to speak to my birth mum that evening! When the time came I had a couple of glasses of wine under my belt for Dutch courage and a hefty pile of tissues by my side.

All through my life the very subject of my adoption and my birth mum had always resulted in tears so I was expecting to get very upset during the call. I dialled her number and she answered immediately. It was the most fabulous conversation I have ever had. Obviously I would prefer to keep the details private but suffice to say it was as perfect as it possibly could have been. She said everything I've always wanted to hear and was obviously a lovely lady. To my utter surprise I didn't need to use one single tissue, I felt far from upset. Instead I had an overwhelming sense of complete peace. I shall never ever forget that phone call. I think we both felt an immediate bond. We continue to talk on the phone and to email. We have exchanged photographs and have decided to wait a little while getting to know one another slowly and gently before meeting. Our first meeting is planned for my birthday in April, which will be both poignant and milder, allowing us to go for a long spring walk together. I'm busy creating a scrapbook of 'my life' to give to her when we meet to give her a little of my life that she's missed.I truly cannot fully express to you how grateful I am for not only finding my birth mum for me but for your utter professionalism throughout the process. Your kindness and understanding made the whole process much, much easier”

What a fantastic story I have nothing more to add, it makes me proud of FinderMonkey. If you’re ready to start your search phone us today on 0113 2825900

5 Online Tracing Tools You NEED to use to be able to trace anyone!

I wanted to put together a list of useful resources that will help you to trace anybody you might be looking for. Some of them are really clever, I especially like number 4 on the list.

This blog post has been written by David Oates, Head Researcher here at FinderMonkey and author of Long Lost Family Tracing...

The trace researchers here at FinderMonkey use different tracing tools to find different pieces of information, that information is key for us to be able to find the people we’re looking for. We have access to tracing systems that are not available to the public, some of these tools we have to be licensed to use and we have to have a data protection license too. Having access to these high level systems is what helps us to find over 90% of people we are asked to trace.

We are always on the hunt for information online, sometimes bits of information about a person pop up on a random website and because of this we come across some really great websites...

Ideally, we want you to use our service to find the exact person you’re looking for but in reality it’s just not suitable for everyone, we know that so I thought you might appreciate these little finds. We don't use any of these searches ourselves. They are great resources for tracing people but are not used by our trace researchers here at FinderMonkey…

1.    Missing You

 Missing You has been around since 1998, it has helped thousands of people to get in contact with long lost family and friends they've lost touch with. It's a free and instant on-line messaging service designed to help you contact:

•    Long Lost Family
•    Old Friends You’ve not seen in a long while
•    Distant Relatives you’ve never met
•    Former Workmates you’ve lost contact with
•    Forces Buddies you just can’t wait to meet again

According to the website more than 25,000 people from around the world visit Missing You every week. Their success stories have attracted lots of media coverage. The site is simple to use and has a proven track record of helping people. CLICK HERE TO VISIT MISSING YOU

2.    People Search UK

People search is a free resource with articles and guides designed to help you get back in touch with people you have lost touch with. The layout and design are a bit old fashioned but the information can be helpful. The site is useful if you are looking to trace people for free. Be warned though, in our opinion you cannot find people for free, you will always need to spend money unless you find them on Facebook. People Search does have some interesting ideas though so its worth checking out. CLICK HERE TO VISIT PEOPLE SEARCH UK

3.    Genes Reunited

Genes Reunited is a great website for researching people. You can search census records, use their birth, death and marriage records and search military records. The site is free to start using but if you want to access certain infomation they can provide it on a pay as you go basis or you can subscribe to their services. Its a brilliant website for locating birth and marriage records, it’s a key for been able to identify the exact person you are looking for. Genes Reunited is one of the leading genealogy sites in the UK and it’s great for finding living people too. CLICK HERE TO VISIT GENES REUNITED

4.    192.com

192.com is a website full of data, from electoral rolls to company records. It’s the UK’s premier website for electoral roll searches. So if you want to find someones address then this would be the service to use. Especially if you know the name of the person you are looking for and an area of the country that you think they live in. 192 will take those two pieces of information and look for matches for you. CLICK HERE TO VISIT 192.com


5.   FinderMonkey Private Facebook Group

Just launched in the last few days, the aim of the group is to make sure everyone who is considering using our service can talk to likeminded people and be supported through the whole process. The group aims to help and educate anyone who is looking for a friend or long lost family member. Members of staff will also be involved with the group, offering opinions and advice. So please join the group and we'll be happy to accept you. We want the group to be the biggest on Facebook and really create a community feel. CLICK HERE TO JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP

That’s it for this week. I’ll be back with another post next Friday so look out for that. I’ve also dusted off the video camera so fully intend on recording a series of videos about finding people so look out for that too.


Let me know if there is anything you’d like to see in those videos.

 How you feeling? I really want to know because its important if you're going to find someone, let me explain...

This blog post has been written by David Oates, Head Researcher at FinderMonkey Ltd and author of Long Lost Family Tracing. He has also acted in a consultary role for many TV production companies.

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David Oates - Head Researcher at FinderMonkey

I wanted to write a blog post that didn’t talk directly about finding people. Instead I wanted to look at some of the downsides to finding people, that’s right I do think for some people there is a downside. For example did you know that is some cases, the amount of questions people ask themselves causes them so much anxiety that it’s difficult to advise them on the best course of action. They are so worried about how they will be received by the person they want to find that they go over and over it in their own minds to the point where they drive themselves crazy. I would always advice these people to think long and hard about their next course of action, the truth is though that they can’t STOP thinking about it!

We have some people who will phone us and ask us to trace a birth parent for example, then ten minutes later will phone back to cancel the search, then phone again and re-instruct us. When this happens I personally call the person and make sure that they are comfortable with the process and to just set their mind at rest. These people are clearly feeling worried about searching for someone and if it’s always been a massive issue in your life then that’s totally understandable but my advice is always the same, you will always wonder about them, you will always have questions for them, you will always want that hole to be filled so surely it’s better to bite the bullet and take action?

Well you would say that I hear you cry!

The truth is, we find A LOT of people every day, we’re really, really good at it so I know first-hand, that the finding bit is not the problem, that’s the easy bit so to speak. We can access a much higher level of data than Joe Public and as a consequence our success rate is over 90% so finding the person is rarely an issue but I’m not talking about the finding part, I’m talking about you being ready to find your person from a personal point of view, from a mind-set point of view. Some people will read this and think its nonsense and for those people I urge you to stop reading and just give us a call if you want someone finding, this blog post is written for people who are struggling with two thoughts,

 I want to find X person…. BUT is it the right thing for me and them?

If that’s you please read on…

 I read a lot of books, books about mind-set and books about decision making (the best I’ve read is Tony Robbins – Awake the Giant Within, amazing book for this type of thing) – he talks about making key decisions in your life and that’s what I’m talking about. If you are driving yourself crazy by not knowing if you should go ahead with the search then you NEED to make a decision. My thoughts are, you will have to make the decision to proceed with a search whether it’s by us or another company because that’s the only way you’ll get answers to your questions and bring closure on the issues. It’s the only way you’ll find peace with the issue.

My personal passion is reuniting people, I love to do it, I love to help and support all parties through the process. I think it’s challenging but it’s the most rewarding job I’ve ever had. In fact it’s not really a job for me anymore, I just don’t look at it like that. I know I change people’s lives forever and that’s just too important to label it as a job. I hope this has helped you in some small way. If you want to hear more about Tony Robbins then this YouTube video will really help you. Its all about making decisions and its really good…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTxqx3uPRq0

I’ve got a really great blog post for next week. I’m going to be reviewing some really great people tracing resources. Look out for that, it will be live next week.

Thanks for reading this post, if you have any questions or need any advice, feel free to give us a call on 0113 2825900.

 

We recently asked a previous customer to talk us through the process of using our service from her point of view. We did this because it’s sometimes hard for us to truly understand what someone is going through when they consider using our service to locate a long lost relatives...

Here at FinderMonkey we know that we can help people and sometimes it’s hard to understand when a potential customer says no when we offer to help. This case study really shows the other side of the process and we’ve immediately passed it round the office so we can better understand all our customer’s needs. Have a read of the lovely story about the power of our service but mainly to see that there are other people that have been in your exact position...

This is a real story from a real customer, as you will read, she wants to remain nameless and we were happy to protect her. Dave Oates is our head researcher and he sent her an email after we had concluded her search to say thank you for using our service. This is her reply and also Daves notes on what she said. We hope you enjoy reading this as its something we think could really help you. Here is what the customer had to say...

“I am sorry not have responded before but it’s been hectic not only finding Carol but I have been very busy at work. I would like it if my name and my mother’s was not used in your case study I am happy to give you information to help. I found FinderMonkey online late one night when I was thinking about my birth Mother. It was a spur of the moment thing when I filled out the online search form with FinderMonkey and it took all little chasing from them for me to finally decide to do this. I was reluctant as I was unsure what to expect and if I would experience rejection. I felt that all my life I was an outsider and I had very little in common with my adoptive family and I did not want to end up with relatives who were worse. The other reason I went ahead with the search was that I did started searching about 30 years ago and on and off over the years but came up with nothing and this for me was about finding that missing piece and completing my story”

Dave - From this I think it’s easy to see that once someone starts to think about a missing relative they will never stop, the truth is when it’s someone you know about but have never met, like a birth parent, and it’s natural that you would always think about them.

“When I found out that you had found my aunt, I was excited that someone had been found but I was worried that I had left it too late and my mother had passed away and that's why she had not been found. When the letter went out I experienced a very unsettling emotional time, I have always been a calm person but I became very frightened and my emotions were up and down.”

Dave – This is common for us to hear that the experience can be a real roller-coaster, as a consequence we provide weekly updates to all customers at every step of the way. We have also started a private Facebook group so customers can support and help each other on there, this works really well as they are going through very similar experiences.

“I took out books from the library about adoption and reunion and found them useful and helpful, looking at the reunion stories from all perspectives helped. It gave me a good insight into why I had behaved a certain way with my adoptive mother and that feeling of isolation were common in adopted people. I came across an online piece where the writer stated that being adopted is like being part of a contract that you have not agreed to and had no involvement in agreeing the terms of conditions. This for me was just exactly how I had felt and I constantly tried to be the perfect child. I would recommend reading as much as you can to prepare yourself as the emotions can be pretty intense and I was not expecting that"

Dave – This is really insightful and something that we’ve really took on board. Although we provided exactly what our customer wanted we felt we could improve this part of the process so we now send out emails with reading lists and help and advice to make sure that this part of the process is as easy to deal with as possible.

“During the wait for a response I was up and down but as the weeks went on I calmed down which I think helped, When Jade called I just cried with relief that I was wanted and that Mum was also looking for me and had never forgotten me. When I spoke with Mum on the phone we both cried but right from the start we clicked and we are so alike. We seemed to have lived parallel lives, even the same career choices”

Dave – This is the power of what we do, this is why we do it. We know that we can make a huge difference to people’s lives and that is a very proud feeling.

“Through the whole process FinderMonkey have been great. I searched for years without any progress and it took just a month to find my relatives. Initially I was reluctant and unsure as it’s emotional and scary to face your past but I am so glad I did. I have been recommending FinderMonkey to everyone who has asked me about my story.Thanks for everything"

Dave – It’s great that this customer is recommending us but all I would want anyone to take from this story is that questions do get answered. They might be your own questions and you might not find the answers easy to deal with. The whole process might be an emotional time (we know that it is and it can be for us too) but if you are serious about doing this then we are the people that you should trust to do it.  We’re really starting to understand the power of what we do and the responsibility that comes with it so our guides and handbooks as well as our emails and services are all now designed to support the customer as well as obtain the information they are looking for.

I hope you have enjoyed reading this particular blog post and that it has given you an insight into the work we do at FinderMonkey. If you would like a preliminary chat with one of our team, give us a call on 0113 2825900. We’d love to hear from you and we can talk you through how we can help. If we have helped you and you would like to tell your story then please email us and we'll send you our questionaire.

 

Okay I’ll admit it, my job makes me cry nearly every day.Telling one of our clients that we have found the person they are looking for is great.  But when we tell them we have also contacted their birth mother and they are happy to have contact is awesome!


I did this just yesterday.  I had identified the person I believed was the birth mother of our client Susan.  Because the information Susan had was so sketchy we really couldn’t be 100% sure, though my instinct told me it was right.
Susan only knew the name of her birth mother and her approximate age at the time, which was 17.  She was born in Nottingham and her mother had disappeared shortly after her birth and so no other information was known.  Historically it’s common for people who were giving a child up for adoption to go elsewhere to give birth.  Our searches indicated no reference to anyone by this name in the Nottingham area.  This led us to believe that her mother most likely originated from elsewhere.  We opened the search up to the whole of the UK and found only one birth record for that name who could have been 17 at the correct time.  We then traced this person forward and found a marriage and subsequently a current address.

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 With Susan’s consent we wrote to this lady to ask if she could be the person we were looking for.
Just two days after posting our letter the lady called us and asked us what it was in relation to as we never state this reason in the letter.  We don’t give any personal details to protect our client and the person we are writing to.  In this instance we stated the name, age and location in Susan’s birth year.  You see these are three fairly vague details but combined together by the correct person would result in them recognizing what it might be about.  If someone else in the household happens to open the letter, it would mean little to them.  


When she confirmed she was Susan’s birth mother she broke down and became very emotional, but assured me she was incredibly happy and overwhelmed.  Furthermore she explained she had been unable to have any children subsequently and this meant Susan was her only child.  When a person is given for adoption birth relatives have no access to the records and generally speaking stand very little chance of being able to find them.  At the time she would have been made aware that she would never have contact with Susan again and that Susan would not be able to contact her.  In 1975 the law was changed to give adopted people the right to access their original birth record containing birth parents names, but many people are unaware of this.

Having dried my eyes from this conversation I then called our client to tell her the good news.  With the lump still stuck in my throat from speaking to her mother I called Susan.  Needless to say within seconds my eyes were welling up again, listening to our client crying her tears of joy.  Susan told me that despite instructing us to locate her birth mother, her gut feeling was that she would never have the opportunity to find out who she was, let alone get to have contact with her.


Susan will be calling her mother tonight and has promised to get back to me to let me know how it went so I’ll be sure to keep you up to date when she gets back to me.

As one of the UK’s leading services for finding people we work with many individuals who are looking to find their birth parents. This short guide is designed to help you find your birth parents. This guide has been written by David Oates, author of ‘Long Lost Family Tracing’ who's also had his work featured in The Daily Mail, BBC Radio and Family History Magazine.

As professional people finders, “how to find birth parents” is the question we are most frequently asked but what can you do to find your birth parents?

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